LGBT YOUR coming out fiesta.

Discussion in 'Lifestyle' started by Pen Is Mightier, Sep 4, 2008.

  1. If you're out, when did you come out...to who...how...give us the low down. Do your parents still talk to you? Do you have a good relationship? Any other info... People who I can think of who are out...NovaJock, CoCo, novo, dude101, philvia, blaq, Diesel, I know I forgot like everyone, but ya....share YOUR story, I think I shared enough of mine already. :rofl: Hopefully there will be no more to my story. :ugh:
     
  2. dude101

    dude101 New Member

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    well let's see I first knew I was gay since I was 12..no trying to think other wise..and being that I had a rep at school I had to keep..I came out to my friends.. but only a certain few that I was sure that wouldn't care..at age 17ish turning 18..all of them had the Sam reply oh shit home boy NOO way LOL..but that all changed cause once me being gay/bi confused back to gay leaked out by the peoples I told everyone and there mother knew cept my mother and fam's..I had peoples coming left and right asking if I was gay I said no at first cause of this gang crazy white Spanish goth rep I had..but that all changed..one day it just came to me "peoples can think what they want about me I don't give a flying shit anymore" ive don enough dirt in my life time while in school and out of school to hold myself down..so then on everyone that asked if I was gay I said yeah! And there reply was the same NOooway dude that'd insane..haha but since I was 12 I always wanted to tell my mother and FAM'S so one day I was drunk like wow I camehome all blah and my mother was like what'd wrong blah blah blah..and I just told her str8 out sit down i have something to tell you "I'm gay" so I started to cry like a drunken fool and my mother to stop me from crying she was like son I always knew you was gay or "different" LOL I'm like WTFhow did you k ow that (but yeah mothers ALWAYS know) and her words were when you were about 13 14 me and alex (my brother) had a talk about you and you acting defferent with certain guys LOL well thats how it went down with my moms..I told my brother when he was doing 6 years in jail on the phone he said the same shit as my mother I always knew etc etc...LOL (I told him without the drunken tears tho) and ad for my twin sister I told her cause I was having trouble with my first ex and she was like no way oh shit thats mad cool yo....so now everyone and there mother know I'm a fairy but can hold it down when shit gets dirty..and as for my mother she was like :ugh: at first when I brought guys home but in time that changed she's mad cool and doesn't give a fuck no more..nobody cares about me being gay..around here gay is just another word..it doesn't mean shit..I think I left slot of shit out but its 424am and I just got home and I'm drunk as fuck..gnight

    Edit: it took me a long drunkenly mintue to write all of this..but being that your mad caliente(wink)LOL and asked for a story there goes mines
     
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  3. ExDelayed

    ExDelayed New Member

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    Ill throw my entire thing up later, its 3am and I dont feel like typing.

    Wow, baked cant read drunk. It took me forever to read it.
     
  4. camarosrool

    camarosrool yes i am

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    mom was/is huge into religion which of course has trouble co existing with gay
    she didnt take it well at first but she is gradually coming around

    I posted it somewhere I'll see if I can dig up the whole story
     
  5. Bib-Lettuce

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    I started telling friends are 21. Two 'newish' ones who I was very close too were the first to know. They were both fine with it.

    Then came the parents. That went reasonably well. I went out into the kitchen one morning and dad was like 'Your mothers worried, she found some stuff on the computer (ie. porn) and thinks your gay, are you?' I replied 'Yep'. Arkwad silence and he was like 'ok well do you want me to tell her' and I said 'sure'. The IU left for work and he gave me assurances everything was ok. Then the next morning mum/dad came in to my room and gave me the talk, nothings changed and everything's fine, etc.

    Then came the drama. Basically the dog knocked over the bin and stole a recite for plastic cock and gay porn out of it and brought it out to my parents, I'm fucking series, that's what the little cunt chose to take with her. Dad was worried because I bought it at 11pm, which made me look like some skeevy perv who hangs out at porn shops with a trench coat. I explained 'it's normal and I've gone with friends heaps of times late at night, there's other young people there, etc'

    Then! Next night, mum found I used here eBay account to buy the 'snuff edition' of horror movies, she thought they were real and rang me up in tears asking what they were, I assured her they're fake. This was on top of a friend constantly messaging me saying she's going to kill herself so I was fed up, went home and lost it at my parents. Yelling/Crying/etc. And I had to explain yet again what the situation was with the movies. So yeah my coming out went fine, it was just coupled with lot of other bad coincidences. So in their mind I wasn't just gay, I was a pervert who goes to porn shops and jerks off to snuff porn with a dildo.

    After that I started telling friends (SMS), they were all fine though except one stopped talking to me and another hasn't acknowledged that I've told him anything.
     
  6. Sam Gamgee

    Sam Gamgee Every tool is a weapon if you hold it right. OT Supporter

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    do a search in this forum.
    This thread has been made a couple of times.
     
  7. NOVAJock

    NOVAJock Modded & Underrated

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    Cliff notes:
    • I'm only out to those who need to know I'm out. Otherwise, I'm masculine and very few people could ever tell I'm gay unless I don't care they happen to find out.
    • My father didn't take it well and didn't really talk to me for a year. My mother took it much better. My father wanted another child and since my mother had a full hysterectomy, wanted to adopt. My mother basically told him to fuck off and accept me.
    • He warned me that we'd never get together with my bf and have a happy sit down meal or holiday party together.
    • Over time, he realized my bfs were not stiletto-heel wearing trannys and were just like me - undetectable.
    • Now, he fully hangs out with me and my bf, we go over to my folks for dinner, they come over my house for dinner...at times my father will even call and talk to my bf before he talks to me. :mamoru:
    I don't advertise who I am or who I go to bed with, but if you have the balls to walk up to me and either ask me or insult me about it - I have no problem taking you on - unless you have a gun pointed at me, or a knife to my throat. That's how I've gone through my life - and continue to do so.

    The only time I'm tempted to let my guard down just a wee bit is when I'm at the gym working out and Madonna's Vogue video comes on. I have a very hard time restraining myself from busting a move or two. Sam knows. :mamoru::mamoru:

    When did I come out? Around 28 years old and I pretty much knew I was since my teens even though I fought like hell to ignore it thinking it was a phase I was going through. Now, I fully accept my pole-smoking status. :big grin:
     
  8. novo

    novo Pokey Man OT Supporter

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    I met my current bf in mid-December of '06, and when i went home for Xmas my mom plainly asked me if I was seeing anybody. I had been wanting to come out for a few years and saw this as my chance. I told her that I was, and when she asked what her name is, I simply said "Matt".

    She actually took it harder than I thought she would. She got very upset but she didn't get angry, just sad and worried. Since I was living in SF, and now gay, her first thought was that I was going to get AIDS. That was her major concern. I didn't get a chance to tell my dad face to face because he was busy while I was visiting, but my mom told him at NYE. I came back down a few weeks later to speak with him. He had to take 5 shots of tequila before he'd even talk to me.

    Things are pretty good now. They actually came up to SF and helped me move in with him. They stayed at our place, my bf has gone home with me a few times. They are still not 100%, i'd say maybe 75%. They always really wanted me to have children, and so do I, but to them it wouldn't be the same. I've told them soooo many times how much I love them and how proud I am of them being so understanding and patient. Now, when I go down, they just ask me to bring some NorCal pot :rofl:
     
  9. Priest Tango

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    got drunk and told some friends :dunno:
     
  10. Elusid

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    :bowrofl: Wow that must of been fun to try and convince them otherwise.

    I knew I was gay forever really... I started coming out to close friends freshman year so I was like... 13 and they were all fine with it. I told more people obviously over the years and everyone has been either like "I know" or "what!? really?!" so it's kind of funny. I started really accepting it last year though wearing some rainbow stuff to school and then hiding it when I got home because I wasn't sure how my parents would react. I forgot to put my rainbow lanyard away though one day and I was in the kitchen talking to my mom and the conversation went a little like this

    Mom: Hey aren't those the gay colors
    Me: Yup
    Mom: ... You gay?
    Me: Yup
    Mom: Oh... Like happy?
    Me: Nope
    Mom: I kinda thought so but I wasn't sure... I have something to tell you too
    Me: What?
    Mom: I'm gay too
    Me: :eek3:
    Mom: :rofl: I'm just kidding. You're still the same to me I still love you
    Me: :bowrofl: I love you too mom

    Any way then I just didn't care anymore who knew so I make gay jokes every once in a while often involving myself. Ha priceless moment

    Friend: You know what sucks?
    Me: Me?
    Friend: :squint:
    Me: :rofl:

    Fun times...
     
  11. geniks

    geniks king of the hill

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    My friends know, if that counts? They didn't care at all other than one.. I don't talk to him anymore because of this. I tried to help him understand and his responses were "how many drugs did you take?" "I think there is a demon inside you forcing you to say this"
     
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    allthatshitbyme.jpg coming this afternoon...
     
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  14. novo

    novo Pokey Man OT Supporter

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    that's awesome :bowrofl:
     
  15. novo

    novo Pokey Man OT Supporter

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    after reading this again, it sounds a little bit like self loathing or shame.

    what's wrong with letting your guard down all the time? why so defensive?
     
  16. Everyone at the gym is gay, lol, no need to hide it. I go there with my BF all the time. I doubt anyone thinks we are gay and even if they did, I doubt anyone would care...fucking like 60%+ of the gym is fags. lol
     
  17. NOVAJock

    NOVAJock Modded & Underrated

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    I have a temper and I know my limits. I have zero tolerance for ignorance. Therefore, to avoid putting myself in situations where I'll deck someone for opening their mouth calling me a fag or a fucking queer, and me getting into trouble for decking them, I prefer to fly below the radar.

    Along with that, I've never been a gay flag waving individual. I don't need to advertise, nor do I need to go out of my way to butch it up, or gay it up. I am who I am, but prefer to fly under the radar.

    I tend to be a private person and enjoy my privacy.

    Self loathing? No. Comfortable with who I am and preferring to not make waves, yep.
     
  18. Virality

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    Hmm, I've told...Three people over the past four years. The first person told me "Oh, no you aren't.," and we went back and forth with that until I gave up and retracted it.

    The second friend, I told over AIM, and iirc, her reaction was "OMG OMG, you're gay! ugh, fag, fag fag!" repeatedly until I retracted it, then we resumed normal conversation, as if it never happened.

    Third person, my best friend at the time, I also told over AIM....He was fine with it. But I retracted that, too. I got nervous thinking he might tell our other friends who I KNOW will have a bad reaction :ugh:

    I give up. People can ask, but... :dunno:
     
  19. camarosrool

    camarosrool yes i am

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    I'm glad you posted this

    I was thinking the same thing as novo, but I didnt want to post it

    I'm glad you explained it better :)
     
  20. zortnac

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    I first came out to one of my closest friends after he told me he felt I had been keeping something from him. I came out to the rest of my close friends soon after, and then to my parents, and then to my family. Word of my friendship with Dorothy crept to the rest of my extended family through normal channels. All of my coming out experiences have ranged from positive to very positive, and I consider myself very lucky to be able to say that. I make it very clear to all of my family that I don't want my Grandfather to know, simply because he is from another time, he wouldn't understand no matter how I tried to explain it to him, and he's seen enough tragedy in his recent years to have to deal with the anguish (from his perspective) of having a gay grandson.

    I'm completely out, I think. I don't play pronoun games and I don't censor my language. Through normal conversation, it's perfectly possible that I'd broadcast the information that I'm gay just like it would become obvious that my brother is straight if you were to hear him talk about his girlfriend in an obvious relationship context. I don't know if I come across as gay or not, but really that's sort of dependent on who's doing the guessing, and what kind of mannerisms and stereotypes they're working with, and I try not to subscribe to those ideas.

    It's funny how slow some people can be though. Recently I sat next to this sweet girl on a flight to Portland and suddenly it became clear after about 25 minutes of friendly conversation that she was hitting on me. It didn't make me uncomfortable in the slightest, and I wasn't about to be a dick and stop her dead in her tracks and tell her, "sorry toots, I like the cock," but when she asked me, "so I bet you like the cute nerdy girls," and I responded, "well I like the cute nerdy guys..."

    ...she didn't get it.

    I don't think anything less of people who loudly, proudly, and flamboyantly express their sexuality, especially if they're just coming out of the closet, in which case it makes perfect sense. That doesn't mean it's impossible to border on annoying and attention-craving, but everyone is different with different motives. Broadcasting your sexuality because you're looking to stir reaction in people usually isn't cool, and it probably says just how much you have (or haven't) really accepted yourself.
     
  21. NOVAJock

    NOVAJock Modded & Underrated

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    I love your avatar. :)
     
  22. KindlyCuddly

    KindlyCuddly Irina Lazareanu

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    was anyone here so blatantly gay since childhood that they never had to actually come out because family/friends/everyone already assumed it?
     
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    I havent yet but more and more people are picking up on it lol
     
  24. Virality

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    Thanks :big grin: I love yours.

    Z06 FTW. Now all I need to do is find one.
     
  25. NOVAJock

    NOVAJock Modded & Underrated

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    How old are you?
     

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