Discussion in 'Vaginarium' started by BornToFly, Oct 19, 2007.
Do you know? Would you want to know? Would it or wouldn't the number matter to you?
don't know, don't wanna know.
I definitely think it's important to know. It gives you a better idea of who that person is.
Edit: At least a ballpark figure.
I know my bf's number. It's one more person than mine. I really don't give a shit....well unless it's like 50 or something
that's weird, i would never tell anyone unless they explicitly asked me.
Sounds like it. I just had the best image of a guys saying "I don't know and I don't care" and his AW girlfriend shouting out "15!"
with my ex, I knew. It didnt matter.
everybody has an ego hang up cause they want to be the only one
how many came before it really doesnt matter just as long as youre last
everybodys moving on and tryin to find out whats been missin in the past.
but it dont matter to me.
I've always just 'asked' and always known.... my ex had 15 sexual partners, quite frankly that did bother me a little, but not tremendously, it just bothered me because it showed well her disregard for quality over quantity.
My current partner, I'm the seventh, actually she's my seventh as well.
I definitely like knowing, to be honest. Everyone of my SO's I always made sure to know. I had one girl, after dating her for a few weeks tell me she's been with 19 guys. That was WAY too extreme and personally I felt all too uncomfortable for our relationship.
I like to know for health precautions as well.
IT shouldn't matter to me (barring anything outragous of course, behavior is indicitive of, well, behavior) but it does. I always want to know.
I like to know personally. I mean if you are good talkers your sexual past will come up in private conversation at some point, i see no reason to tiptoe around the subject. I havent had many sexual partners because ive been in relationship after relationship. But that doesnt mean im inexperienced. Nor does a high number mean a slut, means they might have had a bad few months when theydidnt take care of themselves very well. I have friends that are good people that fell into that trap in college etc, and i wouldnt call them dirty people, just was a bad spot in their life.
My ex had been with 5 people. Not bad.
. Same here.
more interested in knowing that he's not a man whore, than the actual number.
i don't care how many she's been with in the insecure sense
i would want to know about her experiences and how much experience she has had for other reasons. so yes
Come to think of it, i'm less interested/insecure about the number of sexual parters he's had, and more so about the number of relationships he's been in.
I meant to post this right away, but my school is a third world country today, sans internet, electric, etc.
My g/f and i know each others, and neither of us really cared.
Honestly, it's not that important. But some people have a bit of jealousy. I think it's healthy to know a ballpark number and for both partners to be in a similar range.
If one person has had only 1 other partner, and the other had sex with 50, then there are going to be a lot of challenges in the relationship.
If both persons have had 100 partners, then it really won't matter, because both person's value system are similar.
The challenge is when one person has had lots of partners, but is also jealous about their partners having multiple partners... You can't have your cake and eat it too... it's just not right...
i know in proximity he can't remmember exact count but somewhere above 80 -.-
Both I and my SO know each others numbers.
Didn't matter to us.
dont care past is the past
I wouldn't get into a relationship with someone without knowing that.
What if he's been with 25 girls, and all the girls have been absolutely smoking hot, but he's tested for STD's, and he's been celibate for half a year?
WTF scenario. If all the girls were smoking hot then I wouldn't want to date him because I'm not absolutely smoking hot and I know he'd always be out looking for a hotter chick. I don't want to be with someone who is just settling