I'm 24 and she's 21. We've known eachother for 10 years and have been married for 2. Our past is painfull... full of the many many times she cheated on me and one time that I cheated on her. For the past 2 years, things have been smooth and trustworthy between us both. I just wanted to give some info and background before going into this. For the longest time, she has talked about wanting to dance in a strip club. I have always told her no, and I have many reasons for that decision. About 3-4 weeks ago, she got a job at a cabaret. For those that don't know what that is, it's basicly a strip club where the dancers are fully nude. She's not a dancer though, she's just a waitress. I was against this as well as her mother, but her father on the other hand not only told her that it was her choice and there was nothing wrong with it, but that her body is her body and she could do what she wants with it. He told her that it was also ok to dance and not tell me... to lie to me about it. Obviously this extremely bothers me, but that's not what this post is about. So she took the job and has worked there for some time now. She keeps bringing up the issue of her dancing, and it's getting to the point now where she gets extremely pissed if she tries to change my mind, and I continue to say no. Even though she knows that it extremely bothers me that she's working there, and that she wants to dance... she keeps bringing it up and has even told me that someday she will. She even skirted around the idea of doing it at some point without me saying it's ok. I feel that there are some things in a relationship that someone can say no to. I'm not an overprotective asshole, but when it comes to intimacy and things that are private in a marrage, if one person doesn't feel comfortable with the other doing certain things (I.E. - dancing naked in front of strangers for money) then it's their right as a spouse to say no. She disagrees. She says that it's her body and I do not have the right to tell her she can't do something that she wants to do with her own body. Tell me your fealings on this, or feel free to ask questions to help understand my situation.