Would this irritate you?

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  1. Riconosuave

    Riconosuave New Member

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    Been dating this girl from work for over 5 months now. Technically BF/GF already. Noone from work knows we're dating/together. Last night we have our end of the year dinner/party. We don't talk during these work functions, because we don't want anyone to know about us. This new guy in the office likes her, because he's been asking/talking about her. She seemed, IMO, very flirty with him last night. At one point, touching his arm while laughing (everyone was drunk). Toward the end of the night, I even asked him to ask for my GF's number, cause if she were to give him her number, it would be over. I know she has to be nice to people, but damn, doing this while I'm there? He didn't ask for her number b/c he was too pussy, but I'm wondering if she would have gave it up. Would you be upset or just chalk it up to people being drunk?
     
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    Emfuser Nuclear Moderator Super Moderator

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    Stop coming up with weird, oblique ways of testing your "girlfriend" and just talk to her. It's a lot less stressful and much more constructive than playing games and driving yourself insane.
     
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    if she was truly interested do you think she would have expressed it directly in front of you?
     
  4. Viper

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    Who'd she go home with?
     
  5. Riconosuave

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    Damn, didn't see it like that. I guess it was kind of messed up on my part to ask the guy to do that. Didn't now that made me come off as insecure. Hard for me to trust women, and was just curious what she would do. He's a good guy. I got no problems with him. Shouldn't have put him in that situation. Mainly just suprised me that she would be like that. Never really seen her after a lot of drinks. I'm in a foreign country for a bit, so still feeling out how the women here are like in relationships, cause being from the States, we all know how a lot of American women can be.
     
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    What would happen if you were to change the way you look at the situation and relationships in general and, instead of approaching it from a point of fear of loss, you instead valued the experience with her as it was happening?

    I had a realization earlier this week that my attachment to a situation was rooted in a fear of loss. I kept looking at what would happen if a particular situation were to end, and that created some uncomfortable feelings in me.

    Once I got it out of my system, I started understanding the value of the experience itself without thinking about the consequence or the direction of the interaction. Once I started doing that, I became much more relaxed and had a lot more fun with it.

    My point is that when you struggle to trust women, it's because you fear a certain outcome. The kicker is that the outcome you fear tends to become a self-fulfilling prophecy because your focus determines your reality. The very thing you fear the most tends to happen because you try and micromanage each little aspect of it to avoid a certain outcome. When you free yourself from the need for a particular outcome, you will relax and start trusting women more.
     
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    :werd:
     
  8. ChipOnShoulder

    ChipOnShoulder New Member

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    Well said
     
  9. Kinks

    Kinks Sup. OT Supporter

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    this is all that matters.
     
  10. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    :rofl: you're a moron

    All you've done is made the other guy think he has a chance.

    I get not wanting to get fired, but if you actually like this girlfriend I don't see why you're afraid to show it when she has no problem flirting with another guy in front of the office.
     
  11. lauren

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    so she's ok with publicly flirting with coworkers, but has to keep her ''bf'' secret?


    is she ashamed of you or embarrassed or what?
     
  12. jdm-cd5

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    sounds like a whore..any woman with common courtesy wouldn't flirt with other guys in front of you out of respect. Women need to be reminded whats polite from time to time..they seem to forget.
     
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    keep em on a short leash
     
  14. Baited

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    lol wtf
    why can she flirt with another guy but not you if you are all coworkers at a work event?

    are you both that retarded or did she just realize you were and found a way to flirt with other guys while you jerk off with your tears at work events
     
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    firebomb the next office party, problem sovled
     
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    and :h5: viper. one of your very best posts
     
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    :bowdown::bowdown::bowdown::bowdown:
     
  18. MattThom01

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    You're keeping your relationship secret, and are trying to test your gf.

    Sounds wonderful!
     
  19. Hegemon

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    this :o
     
  20. Sirian

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    Fuck you, why didn't you post this 6 months ago so I could have read it? :squint:
     
  21. evh

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    dawt
     
  22. evh

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    double dawt
     
  23. Guz200sx

    Guz200sx The man who does more than he is paid for will soo

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    Why are you guys keeping it from your co-workers? Is it against policy or something?

    As for the rest of the post - :iough:
     
  24. Kev07

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    yeah, i never got that whole "lets keep our thing a secret" noise, dealt with this a while back, i didnt need to tell the whole world about it, but i also saw no reason to go out of my way to hide it. the ex on the other hand... :hsugh:

    makes shit so difficult :o
     
  25. Hegemon

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    You're doing it wrong. It's not hard to correctly manipulate people. Even women! :noes:
     

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