Would this bother you?

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  1. Riconosuave

    Riconosuave New Member

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    My GF of 2 months won't let me see in her closet. She says it's very messy. I don't really care what's in it but this annoys me a bit. Also the other night while walking she dropped a mail in the post box. I asked what it was and she told me it was a secret. Wouldn't tell me what it was. She's not given me any reasons to not trust her, but I'm like WTF. I like her a lot but this has me rethinking how I feel about her. Am I overthinking or justified to be annoyed?
     
  2. Viper

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    My ex wouldn't let me come in her house until after we got married. 2 years and I might have made it into her house like once or twice.

    After we were married, I discovered why. She, and her family, are fucking slobs. And not just "Oh, I haven't dusted in a few weeks" slobs. I mean, 1 foot of garbage, clothes, and/or dishes covering the entire floor with no walkways. Just wall to wall filth and squalor.

    Not saying your gf is the same way, but I'd call that a littlle red flag. Perhaps when she knows you're coming, she tosses all her shit in the closet.
     
  3. THoC

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    WTF? :hsugh:
     
  4. THoC

    THoC New Member

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    would i be bothered about the closet? yes, i would a little. id wonder if she's got something to hide.

    the mail part was a bit nosey of you. not sure if id be ok with a girl ive dated for two months asking me what i am mailing out.
     
  5. Reign

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    Maybe she hides her sex toys in there. that's why one of my friend's wouldn't let me go in her closet.

    Though one day I jsut went in and grabbed one and she let me use it on her. WOULDN"T LET ME FUCK HER THOUGH! :madfawk:
     
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    she probly has boxes of letters from her old boyfriends and thats what she was sending off the one day

    Not really, do you not have anything potentially embarrassing anywhere in your house? maybe she has porn or sex toys like stated above, or maybe its something even more innocent like she has 200 pairs of shoes and doesnt want you to know shes insane like that :dunno:
     
  7. CorpseStreet

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    There could be many reasons why she doesn't let you see her closet, all of them probably are stupid. She might just be trying to annoy you and be mysterious for no reason. Orrrr, she just might like having some privacy. Just decide if you can deal with it or not and go from there. I personally would be a bit annoyed but just let it go.
     
  8. Aronomy

    Aronomy Get your COME ON!

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    I'm sure it's love letters in her closet, from current bf(s) or exes. She was dropping off a steamy letter to one of the dudes in the mailbox.
     
  9. ChaCha

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    You should probably bust open that closet and restrict her mail privileges.

    She won't respect you if you put up with this bullshit.
     
  10. Riconosuave

    Riconosuave New Member

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    I guess you guys are right. No need to get stupid over these small things. She's Japanese so I can't understand her emails or letters if I wanted to. There are things I don't want others to see too.
     
  11. Deborah

    Deborah Seeing is believing, but I don't want to know.

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    yeah, sometimes when my place is messy, I don't let people in. And I agree that wanting to know about the letter was nosy of you.
     
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    on a side note, yes it would bug me...but i would choose to accept that level of being bugged
     
  13. JoJoBee

    JoJoBee Hanging out with my chicks! OT Supporter

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    that is weird...
     
  14. Coottie

    Coottie BOOMER......SOONER OT Supporter

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    Yeah I agree, her actions are kind of weird but you've only been dating for 2 months. Yes IMO you're over-thinking it but wtf do I know? :)

    Just let it slide man....enjoy the new g/f....there's time to sort this shit out later.
     
  15. KindlyCuddly

    KindlyCuddly Irina Lazareanu

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    you're rethinking how you feel about her becuz she wont let you see into her closet, probably for no other reason than its messy? oh.
     
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    I would look in her closet while she was taking a shower because I'm a horrible person.
     
  17. BoomBoomBoy

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    Next time you're over there wait until she goes potty, then make a mad dash and into look in her closet.:rofl:

    That will teach her to trust you.
     
  18. Riconosuave

    Riconosuave New Member

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    I could easily sneak a peak, but I won't. I'm very curious but I won't betray her trust. Besides I'm not a good liar. Everything else is great. Why worry about something I can't control.
     
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    if theres no reason for you to think anything bad is in there then right on...
     
  20. schmitty101

    schmitty101 You might remember me from such films as "Dig your

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    This totally just reminded me of the nastiest apartment I ever saw. One of my friends a while back live like this. As soon as you opened up the door there was a path going to the kitchen, one going to the couch in the living room, one to the bathroom, and another to the bedrooms. There was literally shit all over the floor up to your knees.

    I don't know how the fuck someone can live like that. It made me want to puke.
     
  21. Midgetized

    Midgetized Don't mess with Douche Cat

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    don't worry, it's probably just a closet full of tapes of all the bukkake porn that she's done :dunno:
     
  22. ForgottenSpiral

    ForgottenSpiral Hope and Irony OT Supporter

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    Maybe she's buying you presents and has them in her closet. :dunno: If you're the kind of person that can't handle secrets in a relationship then dating someone with secrets isn't a good idea in my opinion. Some people are more private than others- even with their partner.
     
  23. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    Would it bother me? Yes, but only because I'm the kind of person who has 0 shame and 0 secrets.

    Even if that piece of mail was some sort of embarrassing money-related issue I'd just tell him so :dunno: If my closet was messy (which it will never be) I'd just show him.

    I don't want to say "leave her" or "be suspicious" because maybe it is just her character to be closed off about things she deems personal.....but I know I personally couldn't deal with that.
     
  24. Riconosuave

    Riconosuave New Member

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    I never would have thought that asking about a piece of mail would be a big deal. If it's a bill or a letter to a friend, what's the big deal in saying so? But to just say it's a "secret" was what annoyed me. I can kind of understand the closet thing. I see her wear the same clothes a lot, so I think she may be a bit embarrassed about not having a bunch of clothes, where as, I'm a guy and I have about 2 closets of clothes (her closet is half the size of one of my closets). I don't even care that much anymore. Just going to let things be. But she does tend to say something is a "secret" quite a bit. One time I asked her what book she was reading. It was in Japanese, so I didn't know. Even that she wouldn't tell me. Said it was a "secret." It was only later that she told me it was a business book, which I believe her. But why would that be any big secret? I'm going to take it easy this weekend and not contact her. Maybe go out with some guy friends. See what happens from there.
     
  25. ForgottenSpiral

    ForgottenSpiral Hope and Irony OT Supporter

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    Maybe she just isn't ready to share every single bit of her life with you after just a couple months and she feels like you're being too invasive.
     

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