Women seem to move on faster than men

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  1. Drifter87

    Drifter87 Yippi-kay-ay, Motherfucker

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    It dawned on me last night as another one of my friends got dumped... It seems like after a breakup women appear to move on, find another guy to date, faster than a man would find another girl.

    Just from my personal and from my friends experiences... I have experienced where I would breakup with a girl and her facebook status (I know its sad that I found out via facebook), went from "Dating" to "Single" to "Dating" in less than 24 hours.

    It would seem that all my female friends and ex's and ex's of friends all find a new man to date exclusively within a month tops. Most have a new guy lined up within a week.

    While all my male friends seem to stay single for awhile (3-12+ months) before they commit to dating just 1 girl again (yes some fool around with random girls, but its never anything serious).

    Any thoughts on this?
     
  2. SolidRanger

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    I think its because its significantly easier for a chick to rebound than it is for a guy. Women are at a significant advantage when it comes to dating. It's really not that hard for a girl to find a guy. If she's reasonably attractive, all she has to do is get dressed up, go out, show off the twins, and she'll have another guy, even if it's just a one night stand.
     
  3. Bob Brown

    Bob Brown bewshit, bewshit, bewshit

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    yea it just is simpler for girls to get guys, rebound or not, on any given night, when compared to guys.
     
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    I don't think it is a particular gender. Many woman say that men move on faster. I think it is just the person that is least invested in the relationship has an easier time moving on, and they probably had someone lined up to make the break up easier.

    The people that fell in love harder are the ones that need time moving on. It just means the other person didn't love them as much as they loved that person.
     
  5. chica&buddies

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    :werd: i agree...

    that facebook shit is a joke, imo :rofl:. most girls use that to show their ex that they're over them, when they might not really be. ;)
     
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    did you ever consider maybe the ex gf already had a dude lined up that you didnt know about?
     
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    I would say a guy in a LTR might need half the time he was with her to finally get over her.
     
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    If it wasn't for escorts, I would still be lonely for 5 yrs.
     
  10. eXyle

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    i feel that for the most part, men can move on quicker emotionally than women (i don't believe we experience the depth and variety of emotion that most women do). however, just because he's over her doesn't mean he's already in a new relationship. that's where women have the advantage.

    it's not difficult for women to find a new guy to start dating. if anything, it's usually with a guy they know in some capacity. they give off the impression that she's moved on, but she hasn't moved on emotionally. that new guy is just a rebound. she may contact the ex from time to time because she's not over yet. she's just trying to show that she's fine without him, that she doesn't need him and to extent is trying to spite him.

    there are other variables to consider too: length of relationship, who broke up with who, etc.

    in any event, being with someone new does not equal being over someone.

    EDIT:
    there's also the saying, "best way to get over someone is to get under someone new". both genders use this approach to get over an ex.
     
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    my ex and me broke up like 3 times. Each time it was like an hour after she hit the computer up and set her status to single. Broke me heart when she did it when we dated but now it makes me laugh. Another thing that makes me laugh is that my past 2 ex's are complete trash, neither is going anywhere in life.

    I miss having a SO but at the same time love it. Being able to see anyone I want is nice but then at night I admit I'm rather lonely. not talking about sex just having someone there for you. Its nice when you use to have it all the time.
     
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    just because a woman is dating someone quickly doesnt mean she is actually over her last relationship, it just means she is finding someone to distract her

    though, there are also the cases where there is someone lined up behind the scenes, but i think both these cases happen with both men and women, not just women
     
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    Pretttyyy much. Then the new guy ends up getting hurt, too when he finds out he was just a rebound and got used for handling emotional baggage.
     
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    i agree.... and its not bc its easier for a girl to find a guy.

    its bc MOST girls are happier in a relationship then being alone. they find comfort in it.
    where MOST guys do not mind being single as long as they are getting some sort of action.

    perfect example. my ex of years ago started exclusively dating a guy 2 weeks after our break up (we were together for 6 yrs).

    i was dating girls for about a month here and there. took me 2 yrs of fooling around to find another girl to commit to.
     
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    wounded woman = blood in shark filled waters

    wounded man = unnatractive.

    I can't imagine why after breaking up with a woman a man would think that a serious relationship with another woman is what he really needs in his life.
     
  16. iwishyouwerebeer

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    Moving on is all in people's head.

    A guy could fuck a new girl a week after a breakup and everyone + the ex would be upset that he had moved on.

    A girl could jump into a new relationship a week after a breakup and everyone + the ex would be upset that she had moved on so fast.

    Deep down both parties could be emotionally distraight, men and women just move on in different ways from the outside view. Emotionally they could be feeling awful though.
     
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    It only SEEMS that way.

    Logically, it can't make sense.

    If a girl has an easy time getting a guy, well then there's some guy who is getting that girl-- assuming she's straight!

    Whenever a girl does anything sexual there MUST be a guy counterpart. Pretty logical, right?

    The puzzle is not figuring out how girls get over guys and how they can EASILY find a date faster than a guy can... The puzzle is figuring out how to be that guy that these girls want.

    I guess the supposition on our part is that these girls are going for the same guys.
     
  18. giz

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    you just outlined exactly what I've been going through.
     
  19. Drifter87

    Drifter87 Yippi-kay-ay, Motherfucker

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    I guess it does depend on the individual then... versus gender, or I just happen to be friends with girls who move on fast and guys who fall in love hard.
     
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    I'm working on finding it at this point in time, but studies have shown women move on from relationships faster than guys do (guys take breakups harder than women do.)

    Some women also have the tendency to not get out of a relationship until they know they'll be in another one. Those women need the safety and security of being in a relationship, even if it isn't a good relationship, and will stay there until they're ready to immediately switch.

    This isn't the study, but it's a news article that was published based on the study. And I also stand corrected, because it's not about the breakup of relationships but after marital breakdown.

    http://www.theglobeandmail.com/servlet/story/RTGAM.20070523.wldepressed23/BNStory/lifeFamily/home
     
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    Errr... the way that's phrased clearly shows it's from a female perspective.
     
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    +1

    Most men don't look for a backup when they want out of a relationship.

    Yeah, whoever is breaking up is gonna move on faster, true, but MOST men don't look for a backup while they have emotionally checked out of a relationship while many (and I'd venture to say most) women do.
     
  23. Drifter87

    Drifter87 Yippi-kay-ay, Motherfucker

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    I am in agreement... I know when my relationships go south, I did not have a "backup plan".

    Apparently I found out that even my GF when she dumped her BF at the time, she had her sights set on me. I too had just got out of a relationship and I was just hanging with the guys and taking it one day at a time.
     
  24. eXyle

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    :dunno:

    just shows that women sometimes use a new relationship to get over the previous one. however, i've also know that some of my guy friends go on a sex rampage when they break up too.
     
  25. THoC

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    i think it also depends on the seriousness of said relationship.

    im only speaking from my own experiences though.

    if i break up/get dumped by a girl that i was dating for say 2-3 months i get over it quickly. actually im beraly phased.

    however in my two relationships (one of 6 yrs one of almost 2) it took me a while to get past it.

    its difficult for me to open up to a girl. once i do i get very attached. which in turn equals a longer time to get over it.

    i assume most other guys are the same.
     

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