Women, question for you on an unconfident approach.

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  1. Horror

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    Ladies, when you see a guy approach you and do it unconfidently, what do you think of him before, during, and after? Also, why do you normally deny them usually?
     
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    HouseLing When masturbations lost its fun you'r fucking lazy

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    answer from my gf: "they are desperate, i feel kind of bad for them"

    pobresito....
     
  3. Horror

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    Ask her if she prefers guys who are laid back but smiling or talkative?
     
  4. fray

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    what does laid back mean? relaxed and chill, or shy and unconfident?
     
  5. Horror

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    Relaxed and chill, direct eye contact and responding but not saying much. Versus someone who's enthusiastic but making eye contact and what not.
     
  6. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    I can't remember a guy ever hitting on me that look "unconfident" :dunno:

    And hostly, if I find him cute in any way and I see that he is nervous I find it endearing, but that's me :dunno:
     
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    guess it depends on the chemistry, because if they approach you and then don't really say much, it gets kinda awkward. especially if the girl isn't a huge talker either.
     
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    My friend thinks it's funny. Says she lets them say what they're gonna say... if they're unattractive let them down easy, if they're attractive give them a chance.
     
  9. Horror

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    Gotcha. Appreciate it. Now I wonder if an interview type of question set is better, or just comment on something around them and venture off into some preliminary thing.

    I wish women would say if they had a boyfriend right up front. One time I had a 20 minute conversation that went well, she endedup saying she had a boyfriend, and she legitimately did :(
     
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    "Hi, nice day isn't it?" wait for answer
    "How are you doing this fine afternoon"

    Or hell.

    "Hi, how's it going" works too.
     
  11. Horror

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    I know, I'm just curious because sometimes I'll approach outgoing and it's fine, but I've had times where a girl will spill a drink on my foot at a party, I'll give her a small look and say it's fine, she'll apologize and then ask my name. So I don't get the difference
     
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    ask early then. it's kind awkward just to blurt it out when you're not sure if the guy's just talking to talk or talking to flirt. granted, I'm generally the type to assume they're flirting and try to get it out there early, but it's still awkward.
     
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    I generally think its adorable and become totally enamored, let them move into my house and try to nurture them into a real person while they spend all of my money and sell my stuff when I'm not looking.
     
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    :rofl:
     
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    i guess i'm on the other end of the spectrum. I'm a sucker for shyness and the quiet/reserved type.
    i kind of like it and think it's cute :dunno:
     
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    I'll see your

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    and raise you a :rofl: :rofl: :rofl:
     
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    Fuck it, I call:

    :bowrofl: :bowrofl: :bowrofl:
     
  20. Sure why not?

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    Not to derail the thread: But what do women think when you say something like "I'm gonna be honest, I'm a bit nervous talking to you, but im glad I came over here."
     
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    You'll probably get a broad range of answers for this.

    Depends on the girl.
     
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    I would respond well....unless you are a loser or seemed fake. :rofl:
     
  23. Horror

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    If you said it with confidence, I doubt any girl would care. But if you seem like some nervous shit...bla.
     
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    I came in here to say that. I think that if a guy gets up the balls to come up and talk to me, he's gotta at least come off as confident. I get annoyed when they TRY really hard to seem "cocky/carefree" because then I think they're probably a bastard.

    My advice is who gives a shit about what anyone says on this topic. If you can get up the nerve to walk up and talk to a girl, you're fine. You look as confident as you need to just by doing that.
     
  25. lauren

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    pretty much werd


    i loves the sheepish uncharismatic guy
     

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