Talked to a match on OKC last week and set up teh big meet for tonight. She asks me to email her on the specified day. I'm thinking, oh great, online version of the old call-to-confirm trick. Danger Will Robinson! But I tell her okay, sign off, and maintain radio silence. So today she doesn't get my email. (It bounced. Oops.) And having no other way to contact me, she sends a message to me about 4:30p on OKC mail (which I tend not to check unless I get the new mail notification they send when you have a message and haven't logged in for a day after it arrived) asking if the date is still on (why wouldn't it be?) and to reply or call (phone number attached). Naturally, I didn't get this message until now. Predictably, she didn't show up. I waited around for 25 minutes and then had to book to get to a lesson, but they screwed up my reservation and had to reschedule, so now I'm home. I digress. There are three possibilities I see as likely: 1) She intended to break the date, but since she didn't hear from me, she didn't get the chance to. huntz0r - 1 ; duplicitous chick - 0 2) She has such low interest in me that she wasn't going to show unless prodded. 3) She has such low self-esteem that she assumed I forgot all about the date. None of these are winning scenarios, and two of the three bode poorly for her interest in me. I think I will still proceed with caution at this point as it's not entirely clear what the deal is, and there may be other possibilities I didn't consider, and I'm not going to consider dates made sight-unseen to be quite as ironclad as dates made after meeting in person. Thoughts?