So I got married last year to a wonderfull woman and have been faithfull in all aspects of our marriage. I work very hard to put a roof over her head and food on the table . I try to supply for every emotional need and it all seems to be for not. She does not have a job since last march and we are straped for cash which I recognize is a big deal. Most problems are sourceing from money. However, Today we went to go buy paint for the house and some other supplies and would you know it, something as little as paint setoff a tirade of arguments. You see the doors are semi gloss as most are and the simple issue here was I realized that and she didnt. We go to the store, she only wants matte, I say we need both, boom and we have an argument. I hate when something like this happens and she will say, "See you are not listening to me, you dont even care what I have to say ! " I try to undertstand what is the issue and it is like trying to figure out some quantum physics formula. Any who, so we have a huge spat, and I have to go to work as I took off just to go home and see what I could help with. I tell her I love her but have to go. I really hate leaving before an argument is done but I can't lose my job. So now I have a wife at home who is going to be mad when I get back and all she will say is how I never listen or dont care. I try so very hard to understand but what ends up happenning I fell is that she is projecting her feelings towards her dad ( her parents are going through a divorce) on to me. She is bitter with him as he does not talk to her or call her and she feels he just runs out on problems. I try to always sit down with her and understand where she is comeing from but sometimes It really feels like men are from mars and women are from venus. Any way If you feel like giveing some insight sure would appreciate it. If nothing more just venting about the whole ordeal. P.S. Divorce is not an option for me, not ever. I figure I married her and made the commitment which means love is a choice , an action, not a feeling. If it is hard so be it.