OK a little back ground. My wife had an affair well she stopped it 8 months ago when she tole me. It went on for 4 months. We had been maried for 4 years. One of the bif reasons that we are still together is because she did confess. I thought something was going on but I had no proof. She came clean. Also I believe that people make mistakes. I will be OK with 1 mistake however if the same bullshit happens again I will not tolerate it. OK so my wifes mother is a bad alcoholic. She was very horrible to her growing up. Life really sucked for her. There was allot of abuse mentally physically and sexually. I will just leave it at that. She is a great person however the way that her childhood was she freaks out whenever her mother drinks. Her mom has been in and out of treatment several times. A couple of times since we have been together. Her dad is retirering in 2 weeks. He travels for work. He is gone for 2 weeks then home and doesn't have to work for 2 weeks. So this is his last 2 weeks that he has to work. Then he is retireing. OK so on to the problem. 2 days ago on WED. My wife went over to see her mom. We thought that she had been sober for some time. Well she found her face down passed out drunk. She freaked she could not find a pulse. So she called 911.. The paramedics arived and checked her out. By the time they arived my wife was able to wake her up and get her life signs stronger. So they could find no reason to take her to the hospital. (her mother has had to go the hospital before because of drinking to much(just last year it happened her heart stopped 3 times because her blood alcohal level was .48. For some reason she lived)). So my wife put her in bed and we left the house to go home. Yesterday the whole familly is calling wondering what is going on. My wife has 2 sisters one lives 3500 miles away the other lives 400 miles away. Her dad is in alaska. Nobody can come to town so they are all calling to ask what is going on and what happened. Their mom is still drunk it has been 2 days. She is on like a perma drunk. And being the bitch that she is when drunk. So yesterday she wanted to get away. So my wife drove 2 hours to see my friend of 15 years. She had slept with him before we were together. It was just a 1 night stand kind of thing. Well she went to visit him last night. She did not want me to come with her. She said " I just need to get away from everything". She says that she will never cheat on me again. She made that mistake. She says she doesn't want to sleep with my friend, that she loves me, that she does not want to jepordise our relationship because her mom is being stupid. This is all the same shit that I heard when she was having her affair. So she is still there this morning. I am wondering when she is going to come home, did she sleep with him. If so we are getting divorced. She will lie about it though I know this. So what you guys think?