I have been talking about this a little bit in the Asylum since it seems to be related to depression but now I am not so sure that it isn't something else. My wife and I have been married almost 7 years now, dating for about 10 years and sexually active for 8 of those. Things started out great physically, we would have sex multiple times in a day, oral sex often, sex in public (road head, head at a rest area as people walked by. sex on the side of the interstate. As we got married it didn't change too much, but as the years have progressed and now with 3 children it has gotten progressively worse over the last 2 or 3 years. It used to be that we would have sex a couple times a week, oral sprinkled in here and there. We could be watching a movie on TV or at the theater and she would get really horny and we would go at it right there on the couch or make out in the theater and then do it when we got home. If we were apart at all she would really make up for the time missed with an amazing bj and then great sex afterwards. It slowly started dieing away to sex every other week and no oral at all (give or receive) except on our anniversary and my birthday. When we talked about it she said that she thought that oral sex was disgusting and has never really enjoyed it just did it because she knew that I enjoyed it. Things have now progressed to the point where it has been averaging about 3 weeks between sex and I didn't even get sex on my 30th birthday and then she went out of town for a month. When I get home from work I go to give her a kiss and hug like we have done since we first got married and she gives me a quick peck and as soon as my arms close around her she shrugs me off and walks away. I have talked to her to see what is wrong and she just says that she has no interest whatsoever in being touched, she even said that she doesn't even want sex anymore, I think her actual words were that she could never have sex again and it wouldn't bother her. She talked to her doctor about it and the doctor ran a bunch of tests and gave her a depression booklet which she pretty much maxed out her answers on, so the Doctor has put her on Fluoxetine (Prozac) and she is supposed to start seeing a therapist this week. So I figured it is all just part of her depression and anxiety (thats what the booklet scores say she has) but then she was talking to her mother over dinner and just happened to mention that she had been searching for an old friend online. I wouldn't have a problem with that except it is the guy that always loved and everyone thought she would be with when they were growing up. The last time that I know that they talked was right after we were married and he had told her that he cared for her and wanted to start seeing her, she told me that she told him that he was too late, that he knew how she felt about him back then, but that she is married now. So really what I am struggling with is how should I take the fact that she was recently trying to find her "first love" online? She has vehemently denied that our lack of a physical relationship has anything to do with me and our marriage but would this give any of you out there any pause in believing that? I haven't asked her about why she was trying to find him because she looked at me right after she told her mom that like she forgot I was there and said " I was just looking to see if they were back in the states or still overseas" (father is an ambassador or some shit) As far as the rest of our marriage is concerned (cause I know someone would ask), I make good money, she cooks the dinner during the week and I clean the kitchen afterwards, I keep the kids so she can have a girls night whenever she wants, have kept the kids (4,2, and 1) for almost an entire week so she could go visit family, I help out with everything around the house and treat her very well. Her friends all tell her all the time how they wish their husbands did as much for them/supported them like I do her. CLIFFS: 7 year marriage, physical side of relationship has been dieing slowly, she was diagnosed with depression and anxiety by Family MD, and she was actively looking up her "first love" what should I think?