First off, read this from a Dating site that is Pro Flowers, but against Flowers for a first date: http://www.sharpman.com/Article.asp?ArticleID=505 Women Love Flowers Yup, on the scale of romantic gestures guaranteed to score you points, flowers are pretty high up there. In fact, among the SharpWomen we polled, only jewelry rated higher. (I personally prefer SharpMan Media stock options, but let’s not get into that here.) When to Give Flowers Anytime. Really. According to SharpWomen polled, spontaneous flowers (like any spontaneous act of affection) rank as one of the most romantic gestures out there. Women love to be pleasantly surprised by a beautiful bouquet at home and especially at the office (where they can show the arrangement off to jealous female colleagues, winning you big points). The size? Spontaneous flowers needn’t be big and pricey. Since she’s not expecting them, even modest arrangements and single stems will be winners. First dates. First date flowers are controversial. Many SharpMen write to ask whether it’s appropriate to show up with flowers at the door. Our take? Unless it’s her first date ever, she’s a divorcee going out for the first time after the breakup, or you’re long-time friends who have finally gone out on a date, our position is "NO." Dating is expensive enough without having to shell out for stems before the date even begins. If it turns out to be a great date, consider springing for flower delivery the following day ____________________________________ Here is another take on it: Purdy has it right. The first date (unless it's a friend) is a "compatability test". If you are doing things right then the first date is about going out with the girl and seeing whether or not she is sane enough to date. You're basically testing her, talking to her, flirting with her, etc in an attempt to learn if she appears to be what you are looking for. If you are in the correct state of mind then you are seeing if she can impress you enough to ask her out for a second date. When you bring a girl a flower, you are bringing her a gift. That's more along the lines of trying to impress her rather than the other way around. That's not the position you want to be in, that's what 95% of the other guys out there do. It puts yourself in a weaker position showing that you feel the need to impress her rather than simply being comfortable in your skin and showing up for the first date with nothing more than yourself and your personality. There is also the chance that you send off the wrong impression-which could be a number of things such as; Trying to compensate for something-whether it be personality, confidence, etc. You could send across the message that you are actively trying to infuence her opinion of you which in turns shows insecurity. You could come across as a guy who's trying too hard. There are a lot of things you could send across that you don't want her conciously or subconciously thinking about. Then there is the fact that most "Nice Guys" do this. Take a look at what this author had to say about the "Nice Guy": Now you might be asking what Ms. Sommers' book has to do with bringing flowers on a first date and my answer to that is "Everything." The guys who usually bring flowers on the first date are the ones who typically use niceness as a way to get people to like them, and it is that mindset which is the very source of the problem for so many men when it comes to dating. These guys are the ones who have the most problems when it comes to dating, and the cute girl you've had your eye may have had one of these clingy annoying nice guys fawn over her in the past. The last thing you want to do during your first impression is remind her of these guys in any way. Your goal is not to "prove to her" how nice of a guy you are because if you are a nice guy she will learn this about you when you relax and just be yourself. No gifts or flowers or anything should be offered during the first date to try to influence her decision. We could also get into other area's as well. Such as coming on too strong, coming on too fast, etc. Most of the time the girl isn't walking into that first date planning on having a extended relationship with you. What she is doing is seeing how compatable you are with her-like you should be doing with her-she's not making the gestures that lean towards pursuing a romantic relationship yet, so neither should you. You don't even know if you are compatable yet. Anyways, there is a lot there to ponder, but basically there are many reasons why this may not be a good idea. Is it possible to turn out well? Yes, but there is a bigger chance that it may send across the wrong message or that you may be walking into the first date with the wrong mindset. It's simply not necessary and there is no argument for flowers on a first date that will stand up to the potential problems. It's not necessary and anyone who insists that it should be seems to me like they are one of those people that Ms. Sommers talks about. That is a big problem in dating. Flowers are great, as I said before, but they have their place and it's not on the first date.