Why would guys tell a girl they like her if they know she's taken?

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  1. kiri

    kiri New Member

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    well?

    this has happened to me a few times when i've been with my current SO. these are guys i only talk to occasionally (mostly people i work with and who i never talk to outside of work) and who i am friendly but not flirtatious with. one even said "i know this isn't going to mean anything and it doesn't matter, i just want you to know" :hsughno: why would they tell me that???
     
  2. Mr. Bungle

    Mr. Bungle *lube'n up the shock paddles*

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    Maybe because they think you are getting serious with you SO and want you to know they have been to scared to make a move until now...acutally it must be easier for them knowing that you are already with someone the rejection is easier than if you said no when you were single.
     
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    High hopes?
     
  4. kiri

    kiri New Member

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    what if the entire time they've known me i've been serious with my SO
     
  5. sportsjunkie

    sportsjunkie OT Supporter

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    they want to get with you on the side
    they want you to think about them
    or maybe they just wanted to let you know :dunno:
     
  6. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    I have experienced this and it is annoying
     
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    its easy to tell somebody thats already taken. they arent asking for anything just letting you know in case you split or want something on the side.
     
  8. kiri

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    that's awfully presumptuous of them :hsugh:
     
  9. kiri

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    very annoying :hs:

    the only thing you can say back is "k :hsugh:"
     
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    Yail Bloor OT Supporter

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    desperation
     
  11. Desperation :rofl:
     
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    Same kinda thing is happening with my GF, this guy wont leave her alone, constantly IM's her asking if me and her are still together, or if she would go see a movie with *just him*

    Pisses me off I wanna smack the living shit outa him
     
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    homi e-cool OT Supporter

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    also people want the validation of being liked, so if a girl knows she can't get you, she will flirt with you and try to get you to like her, so she feels like she's wanted (by guys who are taken which is even better)
     
  14. kiri

    kiri New Member

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    it's not really flattering anymore :dunno:

    forgive me because this probably sounds really egotistical :o but, i KNOW that i'm cool/attractive/whatever and that a lot of guys like me. i really like myself. so having someone tell me that doesn't pad my ego at all, all it does is make me uncomfortable. it's sort selfish of them IMO, they're telling you they like you so that THEY'LL feel better, without thinking about your feelings or that they're putting you in an uncomfortable position.
     
  15. kiri

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    you should :hs:

    i was talking to my bf last night and telling him i need him here to "protect" me from all these guys (he just moved 2 hours away and a lot of this crap has happened since he moved). this just makes me want to take him everywhere with me and be like "LOOK!! this is my BOYFRIEND here!! stop hitting on me!!!!"
     
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    Well...its not only a guy to girl problem. it can be the other way around. and i guess people just do it because they have to let things out.
     
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    JohnJohnJohnson Effetely Sipping My Latte OT Supporter

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    meaning they r not attractive.

    no need to :rolleyes: just bc some poor fucker is ugly.
     
  18. julia!

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    desperate. self conscious. saves rejection. trying to get you to persue something anyways.

    These can all be reasons. But point blank, if you dont like it you need to make it known. Word travels fast once you offend someone. It will create a domino effect on the others "that girl is a snob". Unless they are really desperate. and that will keep them away.
     
  19. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    Once when I was dating this guy another guy would literally go out of his way to tell me more than once that we should be together. Then bash the guy I was dating. One night he also told the guy I was with that he was a waste of life that didn't deserve me....Yeah, awkward.
     
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    pre-emptive strike incase you split. Especially now that he's gone...
     
  21. JohnJohnJohnson

    JohnJohnJohnson Effetely Sipping My Latte OT Supporter

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    it's probably bc you are sexy.not hot ( altho presumably that too). Question, How physical are you with your friends?
     
  22. sportsjunkie

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    how does that make you feel uncomfortable?

    If you know you are cool/attractive, etc. then just take it as a compliment and shrug it off

    if it truely makes you feel uncomfortable, why not mention it to the commentor?
     
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    cuz the guy challenges himself to become a homewrecker and when he succeeds, hes happy... but give it a day or two, he wants to dump her.
     
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    for every girl that thinks its annoying, i wonder if it was HOW it was said.

    if a guy said this to you just to get it off his chest and knew nothing would happen, and it was clear that he expected nothing, would it be annoying? like if a guy is a friend of yours and goes "yeah i have a crush on you but ill get over it, since we're close i figured id tell you." and then ends the conversation and doesnt hint/show interest anymore
     
  25. kiri

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    not at all :dunno:

    i hug friends when i haven't seen them for a long time but that's about it
     

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