I was listening to a bit of RSD's "Flawless Natural" and he (Tim?) was talking about how the one trait he's noticed in all guys who are naturally good with women is that, in their opinion, they're "the coolest motherfuckers on the planet." He says that it might not be true, but in their own minds, they are. He says when he goes out, in his mind, he's the coolest motherfucker on the planet. He then said something like "I might not actually be the coolest motherfucker on the planet, but in my mind I am, and that's what matters" or something along those lines. And then it hit me why some smart people (or at least me) have trouble socially. (there are a lot of generalizations and non-PC stuff from here until the end of the post so let's not nitpick or argue about it, just focus on the main idea of this thread) Let "smart people" = "people whose IQs are significantly to the right on the bell curve)" Smart people perceive the world differently from average people. Average people "go with the flow." "Ignorance is bliss." Even though it's fiction, there was an episode of House where a genius rocket scientist or something would "robo trip" (taking dextromethorphan recreationally) because it "dumbed him down" enough to get along with his "hot but average" wife and make him happy in the world. Smart people subconsciously evaluate everything they encounter with logic and reasoning. When something happens, a "normal" person will interpret it that "oh, something happened." A smart person will think "why did that happen?" and look for explanations, correlations, exceptions. It's wired into the brain. You can't "turn it off" (without drugs). It's an issue of perception that is innate to the brains of high-IQ people. Alright, back on subject. Why do smart people tend to suck socially? It's not enough for smart people to believe that they "are the coolest motherfucker on the planet." Without empirical evidence, they cannot hold that belief. Why should you believe you are awesome if you cannot prove that you are? Are you good with women? No. Are you in good shape? No. Are you a sex object? No. Do you command the attention of the room? No. Are you confident that you could beat everyone else here in a fight? No. Therefore, you are not "the coolest motherfucker on the planet." You might be smart as fuck, but IQ is not what gets women or social status, so it doesn't matter. It's not are you "the smartest motherfucker in the room." It's are you "the coolest motherfucker on the planet." And since you're not, you have no reason to believe so. Pretending to be the coolest motherfucker on the planet (faking it til you make it) is a fallacy. Pretending doesn't go over well with high IQ people because it's not absolute. Formulas don't pretend. Correlations don't pretend. Logic doesn't pretend. And these are the things that govern the worldview of high IQ people. Therefore, pretending is so outside of the world view of the high IQ person that it's extremely difficult to do. High IQ people approach the problem from the outside in. For example, normal people want to get better socially, so they adopt a confident attitude (inner game) and from that, external changes arise. They start getting better with women. They start developing the traits that make them successful socially. High IQ people must work on the attributes of being socially successful before they can adopt the mindset. Once they are strong, attractive, good at conversation, and once they know they are strong, attractive, and good at conversation as supported by the empirical evidence of having previous experiences where they were strong, attractive, and good at conversation, then they will be able to support the correct attitude because they know it is true. I expect this post will draw a lot of flames and arguments, but I really don't care . I also expect a lot of "fuck you, I'm smart and I don't perceive the world that way, you're nuts" type of crap. This just hit me today while I was on my way to the gym and I wanted to write it down and share it. And yes, everyone knows of smart people who are good socially, but let's be honest. Most smart people suck. That's why the nerds in school were not the popular kids, and why you have "dumb jock" stereotypes. We all had a few jocks at our schools who were also on the honor roll (and I don't mean because they were taking the easy classes). We also all know the bodybuilder with the PhD, and we know the dumb guy who also sucks socially. You all know exactly what I'm talking about here and I'm not interested in discussing exceptions just for the sake of being a dick "but, but, but, but I knew this one guy who..."