Why men should pay for the first date

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  1. eskarinna

    eskarinna New Member

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    So i was reading MSN today and bumped into this article

    Why man should pay for the first date

    http://articles.moneycentral.msn.co...condDatePayForFirst.aspx?ocid=T200MSN54C1322A

    It reminded me of a discussion we had awile back in the vag and decided to post it since i know its been a hot topic before.

    Please keep in mind i did not write this article so falconer if you are going to flame something dont flame me.

    Its kind of like a summary of everything we spoke about before including topics like going dutch on first date, Financial descisions and relationships, setting up trends for the future and etc.
     
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  2. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    So where is the article?
     
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    BadKat GIVE ME WINE!!

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  4. MattThom01

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    I'll give my opinion on the subject.

    If it's my first date with a girl, and I don't really know her...the first date is just going to be something free or low cost. It's entirely casual, and there should be no concern about each paying for their own...and if they can't afford it/don't want to do that, they can suggest another option for the date.

    A cup of coffee, other small drink, or like a game of bowling or something does not cost that much.
     
  5. RebootEnzo

    RebootEnzo New Member

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    I don't think paying 2-4 bucks for some coffee or ice cream is really a big deal.
     
  6. aim2kill

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    hm. i do out of traditional upbringing, be it right or wrong :dunno:
     
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    worked for me
     
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    so when you ask a girl out on a date, how do you state it so that she understands shes responsible for whatever she wants to eat or drink?
     
  10. RebootEnzo

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    I think he was saying that he picks low cast first dates so he can pay for them.
     
  11. eskarinna

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    from what the article says its not about the cost its about the psychology behind it and the message it sends.
     
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    eskarinna New Member

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    trust me thats not at all what he was saying lol
     
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    the bolded makes it sound like he wants her to pay her part, but maybe i'm still reading it wrong
     
  16. Falconer

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    :golddigger:

    /thread
     
  17. eskarinna

    eskarinna New Member

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    i think they just didn't notice the text was hyperlinked so they didn't click on it. Now with the edit everyone should be able to
     
  18. aim2kill

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    makes a person wonder...
     
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    eskarinna New Member

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    did you read all 3 pages of the article or did you stop with citation from 1 author who used to be a model ?
     
  20. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    I've paid for the whole thing on a first date :dunno: I don't buy into all that bullshit.

    I'm an independent successful woman. I can take care of myself and others. I don't expect anyone to pay for me, especially not always.
     
  21. Falconer

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    Well, I think I paid for part of my first date w my gf.

    We went to a concert but I got the tickets for free (my friend has a friend who works at House of Blues so she hooked me up). Afterward we went to Denny's and I think I paid but I made significantly more than her at the time so it made sense for me to pay.
     
  22. Falconer

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    I stopped after the author said she agreed with that author who used to be a model.
     
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    im honestly curious what you guys say/do to get the woman to automatically pay on the first date

    and im a woman who doesnt feel comfortable letting a guy i barely know pay. i prefer to keep first dates being something free so that the guy doesnt feel obligated to pay and i dont then feel obligated to either a) go out with him again or b) do something sexual with him

    i just am curious, you ask the girl out, you eat dinner, and then the bill comes and what? how do the girls react? cause even as a woman who doesnt feel right letting the guy always pay, i think i might be weirded out by the "you owe $15 for your half, do you have cash?"
     
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    DUH ithink you should finish it and see what other authors and poll videos she presents.
     
  25. MattThom01

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    you don't. You just go on the date, and when the bill(s) come, I pay for mine. If she's too stupid to have any way to pay on her, well, that tells me a lot about her.

    And I would be perfectly fine if we went somewhere and the girl said "I don't feel like getting anything right now". That's cool, it's about us, not the food or drink.

    People should assume that they are paying for their own unless someone explicitly states "I'll get your bill".
     

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