So my buddy and I figured this out yesterday at the gym. If you ask a girl how a guy should attract women, her response will have something to do with his INTERNAL qualities. Let's think about what is ACTUALLY happening here. 1. The girl thinks back to the guys that she has been attracted to. 2. These guys did and said certain things to her or to others nearby. 3. As a result, he made the girl DRAW SOME INFERENCE, based on his external behavior, about what his internal qualities must be. 4. The girl then reports back her INFERRED conclusion about his internal qualities. But does she report his ACTIONS to you? No. She reports back what she thought she SAW in the guy, based on those actions/body language/etc. Yet you don't hear anything about those actions/body language/etc. Not useful. Here's an example. A guy goes up to my attractive female friend. She has nice breasts that get a lot of attention. He stops to chat with us out of the blue. He never looks at her breasts. At one point my female friend says something silly. He teases her on it, playfully punches her arm, whatever. Then he goes off somewhere. These are his ACTIONS. Do they MEAN anything, really? No. The guy could be scum. The guy could be a serial killer. The guy could have his head so far up his ass that he can barely walk. But when I ask her why she liked him, she'll say things like, "I like a guy who is confident." "I like a guy who is comfortable with himself." "I like a guy who has a sense of humor." "I like a guy who whatever xyz character trait." And in some cases, maybe all of those qualities she perceives are really there. In other cases, definitely not! But either way, that is NOT useful advice, because what the hell are you going to DO based on that advice? I mean, how do you just "be confident?" Like it's something you can just turn on? That's a fucking laugh. Armchair psychology, hypnosis, all of that stuff doesn't do shit for your confidence a week after you leave the shrink's office. Same with activities. You can work out like crazy, get straight A's, get a raise, and help the poor - it's STILL not going to make you come across as confident, IF you still fidget and look down when you see a cute girl. USEFUL advice would be where someone tells you what you can DO in order to CONVEY certain qualities. It doesn't even have to be dishonest! They can be REAL qualities. Doesn't matter. Attraction is about MARKETING ability. It's NOT about the qualities themselves; it's about whether those qualities are COMMUNICATED. If you're very fortunate, then your positive qualities come through NATURALLY when you talk to people - in other words, you are naturally good at marketing yourself. For the rest of us, we need advice about marketing. Not, usually, about how to become a better person. In summary: a girl is not telling you what actions the guy did in order for her to perceive certain qualities in him that she liked. She is telling you those qualities themselves. And by the way, this goes for women too. Men will tell you what they perceived in the girl they have a crush on - which may or may not be a TOTAL ILLUSION, I'm sure you'll agree. And that illusion is based on some BEHAVIOR this girl engaged in. Useful advice would describe what she DID, her body language, etc., in order to make him see certain qualities. The advice you'll get, however, will describe those qualities themselves... Not useful.