My mate is an 18 year old female first year student at a university in America. She recently came home for the holidays, and after having not seen her since August, I was completely shocked with what I saw. What used to be a bubbly, personable, friendly young woman was now a depressed, angry, bitter woman. On Boxing Day we left for a ski trip in France with some other mates, and here I was able to spend more time with her. She was the polar opposite from what she used to be, and appeared fearful, anxious, nervous, etc. all the time. Eventually I asked her what had made her change, and she replied "nothing". Clearly that wasn't the case, but I didn't push it. The next night I went for a meal with her, and we got to talking about our uni's and what not. She didn't say much, so again I asked the same question. She got very quiet and nervous like and just said "let's not talk about it." I asked if she was ok, and she avoid the situation entirely. When we got back to the UK, I got to talking to some mutual friends who had observed the same behaviour. Apparently she told her best friend about what's been going on. She (her mate) was very apprehensive about telling us, but eventually she told us that one of the divers on her (the girl this whole threads about, I'm trying to not use names) dive team has been raping her. She says she can't quit dive because she's on a full ride scholarship, and she doesn't want anyone to know about what's going on. Fair enough I think, but this is the part that's really got me confused: her mum has offered to let her come study in the UK for the next academic year, but she says she's going to stay in America. What? WHAT? I can't fathom why she would want to stay where she's being abused and is basically ruining her life (noteably in her ridiculous drinking habits) when she has the opportunity to leave. OT, what the hell? This is girl one of my best friends, but she's being really really stupid. What should I do? Why do you think she's staying? Any advice is appreciated.