SRS Why do women not see the big picture and always key in on little points?

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  1. HoldEmRules

    HoldEmRules New Member

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    Every girl I've been with and argued with, they always key in on one little point that they find somewhat insulting and blow it up. Meanwhile they completely miss the big picture and what I was trying to say.

    It's like women are innately defensive and insecure and feel the need to lash out. I'm not alone either. My friends complain about the same stuff. Most of them don't bother anymore.
     
  2. Here is a bit of wisdom I've learned over the years about women. Don't argue with them: You will lose. Even if you think you've won, you still lose. That's a fact in personal relationships, but not necessarily professional ones.
     
  3. JordanClarkson

    JordanClarkson OT Supporter

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    :werd: I have never won an argument with a female and actually felt like I got through to her. They just stop wanting to talk about it because they see that I'm not going to agree. They only argue to get their way, not to figure out who's right or wrong because if they feel something is right, to them they are right :hsd:
     
  4. AstroGirl

    AstroGirl If I don't respond it's because I have severe ADD

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    Her mosa? ITS MY MOSA!!!
    Ahhhhh, that is soooo not true!! Granted some women are like this. Some men are also stubborn and pig headed and have the "I wear the pants in the family" attitude. Lets not stereotype here, some women act this way not ALL ;)
     
  5. Additionally, to avoid stereotypes: My words are only based on my personal experience, and are not meant to indicate that women are unreasonable, stupid, stubborn, or argumentative. The point is simply that women in my life have been, and usually are correct, and that even if I think I've won an argument, it's usually at the expense of something foolish on my part, and thus it does more harm than good in the relationship -- thus, I still lose, and you probably will too.

    Arguing with anyone you're also "intimate" with is not a useful thing, and trying to prove a point is perhaps the dumbest thing a man can do with his female companion. Again, men, you will lose. If you think you're right, you'll lose. If you think you're wrong, you probably are.
     
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    D A guiltless state of self awareness.. The process

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    What age group are we talkin'?

    Some women will never learn to think about why they feel something first..Before acting upon the emotions...Only after looking at the issue from all possible angles..Then opening their mouths after they understand why they're feeling angry.
    What I see alot in my own relationships, & others, is both parties being equally guilty of manipulating an argument just to save face...
    Even after they realize their point maybe wasn't so valid...Or, that they didn't ask for what they need, so how the fuck were you supposed to know about and fulfill that need....???
    It seems simply unbearable for some people to just say, 'damn I was wrong.'.. Or, 'I'm just fucking grouchy today hon, sorry.'..
    It's totally pointless & counterproductive behavoir. & Both sexes pull that shit.
     
  7. lauren

    lauren Active Member

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    uhg....there are soo many things i want to say...but its too tired. i'll post serisouly on this in the morning, but for now, know that the world is not so black and white.
     
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    This has more to do with an individual's personality than gender. Remember that it is men who are known for not being willing to admit to being wrong. ;)

    Immature people will argue only to get their way. And then there are those who are intelligent, fair, and have a willingness to learn. Fact is there usually is more than one right answer. Being open to understanding and validating each other's viewpoints will make it possible to come to a compromise without instilling resentment.
     
  9. PuppyCat

    PuppyCat O.T. Mom

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    Women think differently than men.
    Accept it.
    Don't try and understand it.
    Just do a lot of "Yes Dear" and you'll be fine.
    lol

    Pup
    (doing a tongue-in-cheek).
     

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