So, I got a good group of friends this past year while I was away at school. We hung out together everyday, ate together, etc. We were kind of mixed with a bunch of different social circles, some I was more "in" with than others. Yet I always felt "out of the loop." I would never know when stuff was happening. A few of my friends would invite me to do things, but it felt like they only invited me when no one else would go and they wanted some company. Especially for parties, I would be way out of the loop with what people were doing. Then came winter break. No one even really talked to me over winter break. I tried texting most of them, some did respond. I figured they weren't doing anything anyway so I didn't think much of it. Then I went back. Most of them were talking about how they had hung out over the break. Not a SINGLE one of them ever mentioned anything to me about this stuff. I thought it might have been due to location, but some of the people that were hanging out lived much farther away from each other than I am from either of them. Second semester was about the same as the first, still felt really out of the loop. Luckily I did become good friends with one of the guys who was sort of in my main social circle, but he mostly hung out with another group. They would invite me to do stuff, even snuck me into a party or two. I'm rooming with this guy next year which will make life 10x better (my freshman roommate was hated by pretty much everybody). Now, over the summer, it's just gotten worse. I text people, facebook them, etc. and they never ask me to do anything with them. I see the pictures, I see the wall comments, they are doing things. I'm just wondering why I'm not ever included? I even told one of my better friends to invite me when him and some of our other good friends would meet up. I am really good "friends" with this guy. No invitations so far this summer and I see him and the other guys talking about what they've been doing together. Now, I know it takes effort to maintain friendships and I should be proactive in trying to find out things, but even if I do, I still feel "out of the loop." I don't think it's that people don't like me, it's more like they just "forget" about me. Now most people would probably think I should get new friends, but this also happened in high school. I barely saw my friends outside of school. So I think there's something wrong with me and how I interact with people. So, what would make you not want to invite someone to do stuff? What should I do to get "into the loop?" I'm thinking of calling up one of the friends I really trust and talking it over with her, but I think this might just end up making things really awkward within my group of friends.