SRS Why do I get angry when I drink hard liquor?

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  1. Casino

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    Whenever I have hard liquor, I black out and get extremely mad. Sometimes I start fights, yell at people for no reason and am just in an angry mood for the rest of the night. When I get drunk off beer, I'm happy. When I'm sober I'm a happy person, I'm not depressed, but I do stress about some things, but it's nothing serious, just stresses everyone deals with. Is there really no reason for it, or is there something in my mind that is hiding until I drink?
     
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    well, it has a lot more alcohol in it doesnt it? So more of the drug hits you faster?
     
  3. Casino

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    Yes I realize it gets me drunk quicker, but why do I always get so angry?
     
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    i dunno, i would think its more the intoxication level it sounds like. Have you ever talked to anyone about anger issues?
     
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    There's a line from a Drive-By Truckers song: "I know the bottle ain't to blame and I ain't tryin' to / cause it don't make you do a thing, it just lets you..."

    You're angry about something and one of the reasons you're drinking is to medicate yourself into being unable to suppress it, so you don't have a nervous breakdown from the strain. You need to figure out what the pattern is in the things you get angry about and deal with that first, otherwise the problem will still be there even if you stop drinking. In that respect, drinking so you can vent your anger is healthier than the alternative, but only very marginally so, and there are lots of other risks besides it, such as waking up in jail. What you're doing isn't wrong, per se, it's just a poor solution to the problem.

    That being said, it is possible that your brain chemistry is such that the alcohol actually makes you irritable and you flip out over stuff that really is meaningless most of the time -- but without knowing what the "little things" are that you normally stress about, and what your personal background is, I can't say which is actually happening.
     
  6. BoomBoomBoy

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    Perhaps you think you're a happy person, but in actuality, you're an angry person. They say liquor makes you have less inhibitions.

    Do people view you as passive agressive?
     
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    I never understood all you people who get different effects from beer vs. wine vs. liquor, or even tequila vs. vodka vs. rum.

    For me, alcohol is alcohol, drunk is drunk. Whether I drink 10 beers or 10 shots, I might get drunk a little faster with the shots, but once I'm drunk, I'm the same way no matter what, and have the same hangover regardless.
     
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    I think you're making excuses to get more drunk by drinking hard shit. I think YOU have an anger issue, and/or something is eating at you inside. I think you cover it up by self medicating (drinking) and then you drink too much and the real angry mother fucker comes out. I'm speaking from experience. I drank to hide or make light-of the negative shit in my life. I have a ton of shit bottled up (and I still do). When I drank I felt better about myself. Then I liked the feeling so much that I would keep drinking and drinking and drinking. then I would black out, and guess what. Those same fucking feelings came back as soon as I woke up.
     
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    I agree with this.
    I always felt "happy" and "cheerful"
    But every time i got drunk i would become very angry and hostel towards everyone. After going threw rehab i learned that on the inside im not that happy and made a kinda AE to cover it up, and Alcohol brings the unhappiness in me out 10 fold
     
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    There could be many reasons and I would suggest there isn't just one reason...particularly if your anger is not really anger but more like rage.

    It could be that your dad used to drink hard liquor before beating on you or your family or even ignoring you and when you drink hard liquor, it reminds you of a time when you were really powerless and you hate that feeling.

    It could be that you have a rule set up in your mind....something like...."I can't be an alcoholic because I don't drink hard liquor and alcoholics drink hard liquor." Couple this with a strong desire to NOT be an alcoholic and you've got a recipe for anger. When you drink, your raging against this idea.

    It could be that you turn to drinking hard liquor when you really want to get drunk at someone. Perhaps your boss was unfair to you. Perhaps someone you care about, like your best friend or significant other, hurt your feelings and you want to "teach them a lesson" so you drink hard liquor. However, you still haven't dealt with the situation that hurt your feelings so the alcohol just seems to magnify those hurt feelings.

    It could be that some events in your life are reminding you of your own mortality and it pisses you off that you, like everyone else, is going to die.

    It could be that you've really be let down by God. Something happened in your life that you really didn't want to have happen and you're really pissed about it happening. You blame God and when you drink, it's easier to be honest about that anger. I was scared shitless to admit my anger towards God because afterall, if I piss off God I might just end up in Hell for all eternity.....so I really couldn't be honest about how deeply angry I was at God for some of the really painful experiences in my life.

    Like I said, there could be many reasons and it took me a long time to figure out where all my anger came from. It wasn't easy and I'm certainly not done yet. Yes many of the above were my issues so I know something about this.

    One thing that's helped me figure some of it out is the idea that anger is rarely a primary emotion. It's usually a secondary emotion and the primary emotion is fear. So when you're anger ask yourself what are you afraid of. It's really difficult to do because anger is outwardly focused. We're angry at someone else. When we talk about fear it's inwardly focused so it seems like a much different emotion than anger.

    I have found that a great deal of my anger/rage originated in fear.
     

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