why do girls always wait till you have a GF before showing interest in you?

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  1. filho do deus

    filho do deus New Member

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    Its classic right, you get the GF and then all these girls come out of the woodwork.
    My GF is a hot stereotypical blond, but I have not seen an increased amount of attention from the opposite sex. What gives?
     
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    What do the PUA guys call this? Social Proof?
     
  3. knucks

    knucks Active Member

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    you're waiting for it, that's what.
     
  4. BlazinBlazer Guy

    BlazinBlazer Guy Witness to The De-Evolution of Mankind.

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    Girls want what they can't have.... so as soon as you're off the market, you gain the mystique of being unattainable.
     
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    thats strange, girls still dont show interest in me :wtc:
     
  6. Buster

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    same happened to me, soon as i got a girlfriend i had at least 3 or 4 girls show interest. well at least they can always be back up lol
     
  7. MissKitty

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    It applies to both sexes. As soon as you get a partner everyone starts cracking onto you.

    Everyone wants what they can't have :o
     
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    ForgottenSpiral Hope and Irony OT Supporter

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    Bitches be crazy
     
  9. Midgetized

    Midgetized Don't mess with Douche Cat

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    Most of them probably aren't really into you. You are just safer to flirt with now that you're taken. They don't have to worry about being rejected and they can flirt for fun without you trying to take it further.
     
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    Its a mind over matter situation
     
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    I am unattainable. I only fuck dime pieces with college degrees, nga.
     
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    and most of the time when you are in a relationship, you are happy and confident in yourself, and that = attractive to the opposite sex.
     
  13. Holliday

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    best advice so far.

    but seriously it doesn't seem like guys react this way to women with SO's (granted there are exceptions). I know when I hear that a girl is in a relationship I back off and don't even think about pursuing anything. It almost immediately lowers my attraction to them for some reason.
     
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    kopetzki Banned

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    because women are whorish creatures that don't know how to rationalize social situations and revert back to their primeval instincts instead.
     
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    in :o

    had a bit of a dry spell, soon as got with my gf i had to turn down 4 girls in about a 2 month span :o
     
  16. Viper

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    this makes sense.
     
  17. Guz200sx

    Guz200sx The man who does more than he is paid for will soo

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    Just slap them off. Tell 'em you shoulda had me when you had the chance.
     
  18. JohnJohnJohnson

    JohnJohnJohnson Effetely Sipping My Latte OT Supporter

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    yeah but what colleges? and what level of degree?
     
  19. JohnJohnJohnson

    JohnJohnJohnson Effetely Sipping My Latte OT Supporter

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    Only person here who's actually read the OP's post is knucks.

    OP, the reason they aren't going for you is because your attitude towards them is the same as it was when you were single.

    Sounds like now that you have a girlfriend, you still want girls' validation exactly as much as before.

    Most guys say that having a GF makes other girls show interest. I have never found that to be true. I think those guys must get a social confidence boost because they have a GF. I don't get social a confidence boost from having a GF. If anything I get a social confidence boost from being single (or just available, same difference).
     
  20. filho do deus

    filho do deus New Member

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    Explain further?
    Why not. IMHO I am awesome
    I dont know if validation is the right word, because I feel like I never sought a girls validation. However, could it be because of the bolded parts?
     
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    How convenient for you.....
     
  22. Bush77

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    I have a gf. As a result, I don't care about how I'm perceived by other women - i suppose this appears as confident to some. Also, I find if I'm out at a bar i spend far less time scoping out other Gs because it's pointless :hs: - the lack of attention i give is intriguing to them.

    I feel like this would ring true with most men in relationships. :dunno:

    And of course there's the obvious women wanting what they can't have. They also know you're not a creeper if you have a girlfriend (especially if she's cool/hot)
     
  23. JohnJohnJohnson

    JohnJohnJohnson Effetely Sipping My Latte OT Supporter

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    Meh, it depends, I'd want to see what you actually look like in an interaction.

    Btw, "trying too hard not to try too hard" is try-hard in itself.

    It's gotta be...
     
  24. filho do deus

    filho do deus New Member

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    I am very socially competent, actually I thrive off social interaction.
    If its the bolded part, how about, want what you cant have mentality, that should get something!
     
  25. JohnJohnJohnson

    JohnJohnJohnson Effetely Sipping My Latte OT Supporter

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    English isn't your first language huh.
     

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