Why do Ex's who break it off continue to contact you?

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  1. purebad

    purebad I don't need your approval, right?

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    So my first real girlfriend called it quits after a couple months of dating (it was a long distance one), she said we were at different places in our lives, and it was not clicking (I thought things were going great) so anyways a few weeks after she broke it off, she resumed dating an ex who she had been with previously of 3 years.

    So it has been a few months, and I have moved even further away for a job, and now every so often she sends me a facebook message to "see how im doing", and mentions that she "misses talking to me"...Doesn't make much sense to me considering she thought because of the disparity of dating experience between her and I that we were on different levels, and that it was not clicking. I always respond with a sentence saying how I am, and that anytime I'm online I'm available to talk....yet I always see her on messenger without the slightest IM.

    I have been trying to move on, but I'm just trying to figure her out what she is doing. I think the problem I have is that I had no closure from the relationship, which is why I keep responding, instead of going cold turkey. Being alone in a new city isn’t helping any either :(
     
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    most do that... its their way of feeling in control..
     
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    Two toys New Member

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    bullshit...
     
  4. purebad

    purebad I don't need your approval, right?

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    so should I be ignoring her?
     
  5. purebad

    purebad I don't need your approval, right?

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    I guess I have the type of personality that hates to burn ANY bridges :(

    I also get excited that anyone in general sends me messages/IM

    damn my insecurity :wtc:
     
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    inyoeye huh?

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    Yeah forget about her, breaks up with you just to go back to her ex.
     
  7. At this point, she is toying with you and she may cover it up as closure for the relationship. She knows she can get to you and this is how she's doing it. To make herself feel better. Remember everytime she gets dumped she comes back to you for an ego boost.

    Man, ignore the fuck out of her and remove her from your facebook or whatever the hell it is. You need to stop living in the past and grow a pair and get your life moving forward. Just because the past provides comfort doesn't mean you should live in it for the rest of your life and hope one day she'll come back. And you know why that is right? Because she won't.
     
  8. Yail Bloor

    Yail Bloor OT Supporter

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    its like a cat batting at a toy, in many cases
     
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    Usually it means they want to try to keep you around as a safety net, in case the current relationship doesn't work out.
     
  10. Aronomy

    Aronomy Get your COME ON!

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    She loves knowing she can get your attention whenever she wants.

    Since you're in a new city, might as well go out and try to meet new people :)
     

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