I'll try to keep this short: Met a girl 2.5 months ago in my grad school program and we hit it off instantly. We begun dating almost immediately and after a few weeks of constant, daily talking/texting/e-mailing she didn't talk to me for four days. We met up after class on the 4th day and she told me that she is a relationship-phobe and has routinely run away from relationships in the past (this mostly stems from a string of bad relationships in college and the fact that she is a very driven and independent person - she never felt like she's needed a boyfriend to be happy). Anyways, the reason why she was telling me this was because she did in fact like me and wanted to try to make this work. She explained that she was scared of being hurt but also scared about how she did have feelings for me - something, she claims, is very rare for her. I took this all as a positive sign (as much as one could) and we resumed our normal dating relationship. She's a very busy person who has a lot of personal and family commitments. She doesn't have a lot of time to see me during the week but tries to make up for it on the weekends. Most of my past relationships have been really good and usually the person I was dating didn't have a lot of commitments and could spend a lot of that time with me. That's how I liked it and how I have preferred to see this girl. Unfortunately, as I stated, she just doesn't have the time that I want to see each other and it's starting to really frustrate me. On top of that, she isn't very good about calling/keeping-in-touch. Sometimes I'll go an entire day without more than a single text or quick e-mail and I can't help but feel that means she just isn't thinking about me or that she doesn't care about me as much as I do about her. She tells me that she loves me and has taken a lot of positive steps that I know are important and sacred to her to make me feel like this relationship is growing (introduced me to her dad - which is a huge deal to her, and added me as her b/f on facebook - i know, i know...lame but still important to me). Basically though, I keep getting these recurring fears and paranoia that she's not going to remain interested and that she's going to leave me. When I don't hear from her as often as I've heard from other g/f's in the past it starts to make me really upset. I'm reluctant to tell her this because I think it would drive her away but it's really starting to affect me. I'm up late at night writing this because I can't sleep and it's caused me to start to suffer at work and inevitably in school. I think I'm depressed but it's so fucking stupid because I was far more depressed when I was single and not finding what I was looking for. I have a beautiful, smart, awesome girl who reassures me every time we talk that she loves me and is happy with me but I can't allow my brain/heart to feel the same type of happiness without thinking she is going to bail again. If anyone has any advice or just wants to tell me stop being an idiot, I'd love to hear it. Thanks everyone!