SRS Why can I not find a girl that wants a relationship?

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  1. CopenKagan

    CopenKagan OT Supporter

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    It seems like every girl I talk to wants to date people. But they don't want to ever commit to anything. I'm okay with that, but eventually I feel like they need to make a decision of whether I have a chance with them or not, so I can either pursue them or quit wasting my time with them. But they just dodge the question when I try to talk to them about it. BTW, this is after at least a month when I bring up said conversation.

    I'm sick of womens' bullshit.
     
  2. frankdahtank21

    frankdahtank21 You have no fucking idea!

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    i hear you man, women... they be some unstable creatures
     
  3. black jesus

    black jesus OT Supporter

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    because they haven't found a guy which they believe satiates all their desires.
     
  4. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    I hate to break it to you...but that just means they aren't really interested in you. The only advice I can give is to keep trying :dunno:
     
  5. YoungGun

    YoungGun New Member

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    Yeah I agree with ^^^^. Only thing I would add is don't try so hard for the relationship thing. Just go with it a little and if it happens it happens otherwise just move on.
     
  6. JordanClarkson

    JordanClarkson OT Supporter

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    you're too nice of a guy. you need to treat them like shit and like a child (which includes physical discipline when necessary) if you want them to fall head over heels in love with you :nuts:
     
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    Arclight Hypercube

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    Beat and abuse her so she develops Stockholm Syndrome and loves you.
     
  8. amac88

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    What age range of women are you after? Usually women age 18-22 are still into the whole high school "Ill go after the guy with all the money/looks/popularity/whatever, rather than the guy who actually knows what hes doing in a relationship" thing. Once you get out of that age range, women start realizing that Mr. Dumb Popular Jock from high school isnt really the best guy for a long term relationship. But, remember, all women do that to some extent. Look for older women, age 25-30 (I dont know your age, this might be in your normal range), or you can try to keep looking and hopefully find an 18-20 yr old who is what youre looking for. Good luck!
     
  9. tqpolo

    tqpolo ***** Platinum Member OT Supporter

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    I thought only guys do this. Well for the last years or so, I've been only dating and not committing. Of course the girls that I'm involved with can't stand it when I said I don't want a gf. To be honest, all the girls I dated, there were something wrong with all of them. I don't feel the emotional connection or simply I feel like they're not good enough. Ask yourself, if you found the perfect girl, would you tell her you don't want to commit to her?
     
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    tqpolo ***** Platinum Member OT Supporter

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    Oh and one more thing. It's the girl's job to bring up the relationship talk. Your job is just to escalate the physical relationship. Keep it simple and do what you are programmed to do.
     
  11. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    Nicely put
     
  12. Yuppy

    Yuppy Have a seat right there....

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    thats because you dont ask them about a relationship. you tell them they can be your girlfriend. keyword: TELL
     
  13. black jesus

    black jesus OT Supporter

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    this is a good thread.
     
  14. eXyle

    eXyle ׂ

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    you know, you can make the decision for yourself too. if they are unable to offer something you want, move on. no need to wait around and wait for them to make a decision. if you know what you want, go for it, if they are not on the same page, find someone who is.
     
  15. cascade85

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    your probably not looking for girls in the right places and in the wrong age range.
     
  16. Japan Four

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    maybe you bring your emotions in too quickly. let the girl bring all that up. be stioc, be a man. play the game.
     
  17. tqpolo

    tqpolo ***** Platinum Member OT Supporter

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    This is why beer is :bowdown:. I love it when she keeps it real and not be like a typical girl and say "all guys want is sex, he's no good".
     
  18. Lucky Penny

    Lucky Penny Mr. cut me some slack cause I don't wanna go back,

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    :bowrofl: :bowrofl: :bowrofl: Best response I've seen in weeks!
     
  19. cascade85

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    yeah that always gets me wet.
     
  20. JordanClarkson

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    that's what my ex's new bf did to her. she says she's never known love before like this one.
     
  21. civicmon

    civicmon got all my game from the streets of california.

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    It's because they need to get their heads out of their asses and realize that the Princess has left the castle and walking through the city.

    A lady I work with.. bit older than I am, admitted that she held out and held out for the "perfect man" and was lonely and depressed at the age of 30 since she was still alone.

    She toned down her "requirements" and has been married for over 10 years now.
     
  22. civicmon

    civicmon got all my game from the streets of california.

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    A good dickin' keeps'em tickin...
     
  23. KSNIPPY

    KSNIPPY As lost as i get i will find you

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    i like the sound of this advice, anymore to it?

    ...i could be having this problem with the girl im dating now
     
  24. METALLlC BLUE

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    Why don't you just skip the frustration and make the decision for them. You decide when you feel the line should be drawn, and when they cross it and still don't want to commit, you walk.

    If someone dodges your question, then end the relationship. Why wait for someone else to choose?
     

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