Why are people so averse to getting married?

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  1. GlassUser

    GlassUser send an email not a pm OT Supporter

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    Especially when they'll do it all except in name? I mean, they'll move in, share finances, have kids, attend family functions together, and ALL that, but they refuse to sign a largely irrelevant piece of paper. Having never been there, I will freely admit my ignorance - educate me
     
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    Boils down to how most people think these days. Most men these days are averse to getting married, because in the event of failure, the laws are designed to screw them. They also know that there are women out there that are aware of this and will use it to their full advantage. Entering into marriage for a woman locks her into having access to alot of the man's assets whether they stay married or not. At this point she is set even if they split. It's like when you have a pan sitting on the stove and you're not sure if it's hot. Why would you risk picking it up and burning yourself when you could leave it there and eat out of it. You still get to eat either way.
     
  3. lauren

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    there was a thread in the main forum where a number of guys thought divorce = guy keeping only half of his salary.


    so, i'd say jaded/misinformation is a huge part of it. :mamoru:
     
  4. Kreigore

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    I would say I have a somewhat jaded view toward marriage.

    ...I think it occurs in guys after the first girl they thought they were gonna marry breaks their heart. :o :mamoru:
     
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    ...alimoney, which usually is the men paying the women for no real fucking reason. Which is why it was probably said that the guy only keeps 1/2 of his salary since in most cases he has to give a shitload of his salary/income to his wife.

    Divorce should be 50/50 but never is. 9 times out of 10 the law lets the women screw the men, even if the divorce was a result of the woman.
     
  6. JohnJohnJohnson

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    this counts as a discussion thread, i should think...

    in the other thread, the anti-marriage argument was that there are

    1. discernible risks, because you simply cannot guarantee what will happen over your lifetime to your emotional state or to your wife's; and of equal importance, there are

    2. no discernible benefits to marriage that you cannot have while being single (other than "making a marriage work" - why you would ever want to do that for its own sake, IS the question itself; a circular argument).
     
  7. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    I have nothing against marriage. In fact, it blows me away how many people in here are so against it. Then again I guess it's not surprising when half of marriages nowadays end in divorce :dunno: Makes me very sad though to see how many people are so bitter about it, and most have never even been married!

    My parents have been married 30+ years and are so ridiculously happy. I hope to get married one day but am not so jaded as to think every marriage works out in the end, no matter how sublimely happy you are for a while. I am still optimistic though.
     
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    i can accept being with one person for the rest of my life

    i would of course never get married bc i have an iq to ward me off of stupid ideas
     
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    if there are kids involved thats not far from the truth.

    I see no need to agree to let someone rip my balls off just because we decide we don't like each other anymore, AND give them a firm little tug just to make sure I know it anytime she doesn't get her way in the relationship.
     
  10. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    I have a better question!!!!

    Since most of you are against marriage I have to know, are you parents married or divorced?
     
  11. JohnJohnJohnson

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    my mom's been happily married for 11 years. my dad's single

    my mom would be equally happy without the marriage. my dad would be happier with somebody in his life

    your parents' marriage is not what made them happy together, beer.
     
  12. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    What I more meant was "are your parents married to one another?"
     
  13. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    What does that mean?
     
  14. JohnJohnJohnson

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    ooookay. i see how you argue.

    i'm a man, so i'm biased against anything you say, and therefore not worth discussing something with.

    my parents are not married to each other, and therefore i have emotional interference that is not permitting me to see things from an objective p.o.v.

    you look for a character portrait and ignore the words

    like a horrible shrink from a movie

    you should rlly /yourself :)
     
  15. JohnJohnJohnson

    JohnJohnJohnson Effetely Sipping My Latte OT Supporter

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    i mean they didn't need a legal contract with risks and no benefits, in order to love each other and build something together over the course of three decades
     
  16. Phantom Empress

    Phantom Empress mmmmmm tasty!!!

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    it's easier to sell a house and split the differnece if we break up than divorce and dissolve a marriage with all the legal mumbo-jumbo involved.
     
  17. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    What on earth are you talking about? I'm asking everyone if their parents are married still because so many are against it. I'm trying to correlate if that has anything to do with it.

    Example: My parents are very happily married still. I have a positive outlook on marriage in my future.

    WTF are you talking about?
     
  18. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    I never said they did need it....You really don't need to try and school me on how I should be against marriage. It'll be a waste of time, trust me.
     
  19. JohnJohnJohnson

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    calm down u jumpy little squirt.

    here's what i was talking about

    i just put two and two together.

    apparently 2 + 2 = horrible shrink :rofl:
     
  20. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    Ok then...I just wanted a general consensus from the board to see if their parents were still married...Have no idea why it turned into an overanalyzation from you :hsugh:
     
  21. JohnJohnJohnson

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    which btw is a terrible habit.. reread my post bc you're not too dumb to get what i'm saying, you just don't like what i'm saying. :hsugh:
     
  22. Phantom Empress

    Phantom Empress mmmmmm tasty!!!

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    my parents were married for 18 years till my mother died. My father refuses to remarry stating the only woman he'd pledge his life to was already gone.

    my view on marriage has nothing to do with my parents. I just don't feel that marriage will benefit more, nor will it be a detriment.... i just don't need to do it.
     
  23. JohnJohnJohnson

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    yes you do. i was clear as water
     
  24. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    That's sad, I'm sorry your mom passed :(

    But thank you for answering the question. Your answer was the kind I was hoping for.
     
  25. Phantom Empress

    Phantom Empress mmmmmm tasty!!!

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    no reason for you to be sorry, shit happens.

    you're welcome.
     

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