I'm guessing it's because I'm insecure? I've been seeing this girl for about 7 months or so (we're both 24). (She's a V, but we won't go into that). She's really laid back and takes a more care-free attitude about the relationship than I, but I've consulted a friend of hers and believe it's partially because she's an ice-queen who doesn't want to expose herself or get her heart broken. But anyway... I don't think she really knows a whole lot about serious relationships, although she claims to have had a few boyfriends. Anywho, sometimes she lets things slip from her past that she shouldn't, including making out with boyfriends, etc. She also told me that, in her home country when she was in her teens, she smoked pot almost every single day for two years with her bf because it's legal and easy to get. It's things like this that I just can't get past. Usually, I like to figure out my problems on my own or peruse the Vag, but I guess it's time that I made a thread about it. I think part of the reason I'm attracted to this girl is (besides the fact that she makes me laugh a lot and I really enjoy being around her) is that fact that she is a V. I've had serious gf's that weren't V's and their past wasn't that big of a deal...maybe because I knew I was in control of the relationship. I know this rambling must sound like I'm 16 or something, but I guess I just want to know what to do/think to not be such a hypocrit. I know that we dig each other and the attraction is pretty much mutual, but she lets it slip that she's almost had sex with another bf, yet I've done elusive sexual acts with other girls, yet I lose sleep over it. wtf?