who's the asshole in this relationship?

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Who's the asshole in this relationship?

  1. Me -- the guy

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  2. Her -- the girl

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  3. Both douches [i]equally[/i]

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  4. Neither... everyone behaved reasonably

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  5. I just want to see the results.

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  1. KetchupKing

    KetchupKing New Member

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    GF of 2 years is leaving for good... she's flying out of the country in two hours. We haven't talked since Saturday. And we may never will.

    It all started this last fateful Saturday morning. We were both up early, and had decided to meet up. She said I should leave right then, and I said I was still too sleepy. I told her she should wake me up by calling me at 1pm and we would meet up at 2pm instead. She begrudingly agreed. I woke up at 2:30 with no missed calls, and immediately call to tell her that I was going to be late. She was angry but told me to be there asap.

    I drive an hour to her local mall (she lives 5 minutes away.) When I got there, she still wasn't there. I called her and she feigned sleepiness in the way girls can be passive-agressive about these things and said that I should just wait there until she feels less tired. (I can't actually go visit her for unrelated reasons.) I wait 15 mins and call her again. She says she's still tired. I leave.

    She calls me half an hour later and tells me she came and couldn't find me anywhere. She said she was mad at me for ditching her. I told her I'm not going to be toyed-with and play her mind games. She says that our relationship is over if I don't apologize to her before her flight. I laughed and said I was the one who's owed an apology. We haven't talked since then. And now her flight out of the country leaves in two hours.

    We had an exciting weekend planned when she comes back at the end of the week. And every weekend and a few weekdays until the new year. Looks like all of it will be canceled. Who's the asshole in this relationship?
     
  2. Viper

    Viper OT Supporter

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    YOu both are being childish assholes. But she was more of a childish asshole, but only slightly so.
     
  3. KetchupKing

    KetchupKing New Member

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    what would you do in the situation then?
     
  4. Ideotique

    Ideotique Drinking on monday nights does not make me an alco

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    You were late
    She was late
    You were immature
    She was immature

    Bot douches.
     
  5. Diesel66

    Diesel66 My standards for women is like rent-a-centers stan OT Supporter

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    Throwing away a 2 year thing because neither of you can show up on time ?
     
  6. KetchupKing

    KetchupKing New Member

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    I'm kinda surprised that the difference between a) trying to be on time but unintentionally being late due to someone else and b) intentionally being late to spite someone is equal to you guys. I guess the phase "the thought that counts" doesn't prevail over "an eye for an eye"
     
  7. Ideotique

    Ideotique Drinking on monday nights does not make me an alco

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    Dude, you over slept and your girlfriend got pissed.

    Learn how to set your alarm yourself and not rely on others.
     
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    ww_Crimson New Member

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    You could have just as easily set an alarm on your clock for 2pm to wake you up.

    I hate when people are late but I wouldn't play the immature ass games she was playing.


    Sounds like there's a lot more going on than her being pissed about you being late. Especially if you've been dating TWO years.
     
  9. KetchupKing

    KetchupKing New Member

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    I'm still shocked you guys would just wait around while the GF "sleeps". Would you guys wait 5 hours? 10 hours?
     
  10. KetchupKing

    KetchupKing New Member

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    Nothing else going on. Everything seems to have been looking good.
     
  11. MarshyTheKid

    MarshyTheKid New Member

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    Where is she going and how long?
     
  12. Ideotique

    Ideotique Drinking on monday nights does not make me an alco

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    You both sound equally as immature.

    17, right?
     
  13. Diesel66

    Diesel66 My standards for women is like rent-a-centers stan OT Supporter

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    your issue is being 1 1/2 hours late and letting this destroy a 2 year relationship. And you should have sent a text message saying you were leaving.

    Her issue is that bs after you admitted to being late. She had an hour to get ready and get there. No excuse
     
  14. KetchupKing

    KetchupKing New Member

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    she had 6 hours to get ready, although she only needs 5 minutes as she lives down the block from where we meet up. She knew I was going to be late and knew when I left.
     
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    To tired, call back in 15 minutes? What the hell is that?

    You're both stupid. If you want to be with her, swallow your pride and apologize but make sure you actually talk it out. Don't let her win, but don't make her lose either.
     
  16. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    You're both way too immature for this relationship. Neither of you take responsibility and neither of you know how to communicate properly with one another. You are 33 years old for fuck's sake!

    There's no way the relationship is over due to this one instance. There's far more to the story that you are either not reporting are just too dense to recognize is an issue. My money is on the fact that the honeymoon phase is over so you both get pissy over the smallest things.

    The breakup is a good thing. Move on.
     
  17. bpa00

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    Seems pretty childish to me... I have a feeling there is more going on than just this one incident if you are both willing to break it off after one little fight...
     
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    Seriously most 15 year olds are more mature than both of you...
     
  19. Viper

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    Holy fucking shit!

    I would've guessed maybe 17 or 18 at best.
     
  20. ripcurl

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    this seems like the most ridiculous thing I have ever read.

    2 year relationship?

    Do you charge her for gas money when you drive?
     
  21. vodkacollins

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    is this for real?

    you both sound immature, and you are 33? thats scary. i have a hard time believing this is the one and only thing that has ever gone wrong in the relationship and that you both are so easily willing to throw it away because both of you were late and tired.

    if you want to be with her, call her. if you dont, then dont.
     
  22. Drifter87

    Drifter87 Yippi-kay-ay, Motherfucker

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    Actually I would peg it on her... you ask her to call you and she never did. You drive an hour and she does not show up. Honestly it sounds like a communication problem.
     
  23. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    :werd: That's probably why she's ending it. Not that she's any better but who wants to be with a 33 year old man who acts like a 16 year old?
     
  24. Diesel66

    Diesel66 My standards for women is like rent-a-centers stan OT Supporter

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    How old is she ?

    daddy doesn't want some old man picking up his 18 year old daughter
     
  25. MCohen

    MCohen #NotMyPresident #AmericaIsAlreadyGreat #GoSolar OT Supporter

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    Sounds like you both are pretty childish
     

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