Who should initiate sex?

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Who should initiate sex in a relationship?

  1. The guy should usually start things

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  2. The girl is usually the one to get things going

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  3. It's usually a 50/50 mix, or close to it.

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  1. AutoEuphoria

    AutoEuphoria New Member

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    Been in a long-term relationship (almost 6 years now), but for all of that time it seems like whenever we have sex, or do anything like that (besides kissing), I'm always the one who initiates it. I'd love it if my girl jumped up on top of me or something like that, but I guess I'm not sure if that's how things normally work LOL. So, who do you think should initiate sex?
     
  2. niSssEanR

    niSssEanR OT Supporter

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    Tell her to jump your bones... or cut her off... That will change it!
     
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    GTLifter Banned

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    it's a two way street
     
  4. BadKat

    BadKat GIVE ME WINE!!

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    I think whoever wants to initiate it should. I initiate about 50% of the time :dunno: W/my Ex he initiated more often than I did. My SO and I are on the same wavelength, though sometimes he wants it when I don't and vice versa, but it's rare for one of us to deny the other.

    My favorite is when he's trying to leave to go the library to study (he takes courses year round, working on an MBA) and I practically jump him as he's going out the door, thus delaying his leaving :o I tell him he has to leave me with something satisfactory so I don't mind his being gone
     
  5. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    Have you told her about this?
     
  6. AutoEuphoria

    AutoEuphoria New Member

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    Yeah, I've mentioned it. She says she knows she should do it more often, but she never does. Nothing to get MAD about, but it'd be nice I guess. I don't think she's ever been that way.
     
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    Is she shy? Make sure that when she DOES initiate you are as responsive as possible and let her know how much it turns you on
     
  8. AutoEuphoria

    AutoEuphoria New Member

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    Oh I definitely will. And I wouldn't say she's shy...maybe to an extent, but not to the point where it would affect this. I talked with her last night about it, and she told me she's going to really try to improve on that, so I can't be anything but happy about that :)
     
  9. Drifter87

    Drifter87 Yippi-kay-ay, Motherfucker

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    My girlfriend and I are roughly 50/50. Some days she will come over and just rip all my clothes off and push me onto the bed. Other days the second she walks into my apartment I pick her up, throw her on my bed, and get to work.

    The girlfriend and I have about the same sex drive. Currently we average 3x a day and we both agree we do not want to be a couple who only has "Holiday Sex".
     
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    RedVsBlue Penguins > *

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    Took me a little time to get my wife to initiate things alot before we were married. I think her reason was a confidence thing, she just felt like she didnt know what to do. It took some time, but now ill be laying in bed and wake up with her ripping off my clothes. I dunno if thats the reason for all women, but without directly saying things, try to get her into a position of control during sex and make sure you positively reinforce that she is doing an awesome job.
     
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    nothing like a text when you are at work that says

    i want to fuck you hard when you get home
     
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    50/50, definitely
     
  13. Leah

    Leah Well-Known Member

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    I have the exact opposite situation going on...I feel like I'm always throwing myself at my boyfriend because (IMO) I have a pretty healthy sexual appetite and like to have sex at least 3 times a week, once a day in a perfect world...he doesn't ever blow me off or anything, I just wish he would be the insatiably horny one every once in awhile. :o

    Both should initiate sex, obviously. It makes the other feel wanted and sexy, it should never be one sided.
     
  14. JohnJohnJohnson

    JohnJohnJohnson Effetely Sipping My Latte OT Supporter

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    who is the girl in your AV?
     
  15. JohnJohnJohnson

    JohnJohnJohnson Effetely Sipping My Latte OT Supporter

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    i go through phases, and don't keep track so it's hard to say exactly.

    looking back in the recent past, i would say that right now i start getting pretty antsy after two days. but the workweek is a real libido killer sometimes, which means often it's been 3 on the weekend but then 1 during the workweek. not including the usual touching / groping / feeling up all week.

    come to think about it that's much the same as it has been for a long time now.
     
  16. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    looks like Hayden Panettiere
     
  17. JohnJohnJohnson

    JohnJohnJohnson Effetely Sipping My Latte OT Supporter

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    woah, i google searched that name, and did not recognize her. she's, er, grown up
     
  18. Leah

    Leah Well-Known Member

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    :werd: We've been known to have sex 3 or 4 times on our day off just to make up for all the lost chances when we were exhausted or had other stuff going on during the week.
     

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