Which is worse in an LTR?

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Which is worse in an LTR?

  1. When you care more about your SO than they do about you.

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    83.0%
  2. When you care less about your SO than they do about you.

    9 vote(s)
    17.0%
  1. JohnJohnJohnson

    JohnJohnJohnson Effetely Sipping My Latte OT Supporter

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    Where you feel like you care more than they do, or where you feel like you care less than they do? Don't be boring, pick one.
     
  2. JohnJohnJohnson

    JohnJohnJohnson Effetely Sipping My Latte OT Supporter

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    I'd much rather care more. Reposted because the phrasing was going to lead to 25902 "neither!" responses
     
  3. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    IMO it's always been worse to think that I care far more than my SO cares about me. I've been in a lot of relationships where I was the one who obviously didn't care as much...and it didn't bother me at all :mamoru:
     
  4. JohnJohnJohnson

    JohnJohnJohnson Effetely Sipping My Latte OT Supporter

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    I am not consistent on this. The better a mental state I'm in, the more I go with preferring to care more. The worse a mental state I'm in, the more I go with preferring to care less. I trust my preferences when I'm in a good mental state so ultimately I'd go with what I said in the original post.
     
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    jmezz layin in bed stretchin my pumped quads for hours

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  6. mrchina

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    Why do you keep asking so many hypothetical questions Johnson?
     
  7. JohnJohnJohnson

    JohnJohnJohnson Effetely Sipping My Latte OT Supporter

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    I don't know how to answer this other than to say that I find them interesting. Why do you keep asking me why I do things? :squint:
     
  8. Falconer

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    The one who cares less has more power.

    Therefore, it's worse for you (the poll responder) to care more.
     
  9. eskarinna

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    there is nothing worse than not being able to exit a relationship that you don't want to be in.
     
  10. JohnJohnJohnson

    JohnJohnJohnson Effetely Sipping My Latte OT Supporter

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    While that may be true for you, I am more interested in feeling alive and passionate than feeling in control and apathetic. I've been in both situations (care more, care less). I MUCH prefer caring more. Caring less is a big clamp directly squeezing my balls. Caring more is having something worth feeling strongly about.
     
  11. JohnJohnJohnson

    JohnJohnJohnson Effetely Sipping My Latte OT Supporter

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    That is because you liked the clamping-balls metaphor.

    Btw, I like "caring equally" more than I like either option in the poll.
     
  12. DTR rex

    DTR rex New Member

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    One of the worst feelings in the world is when someone that you love and that once loved you is obviously not as in love with you as they used to be.... And you can easily see that you care so much more about them than they do about you.

    Caring about someone less than they do about you sucks too, but it's always been easier to deal with IMO.
     
  13. Falconer

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    As always, I am impressed by your worldview. :bigthumb:
     
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    It has always freaked me out a little when people like me and I don't like them. People I work with, go to school with, 'friends,' a SO, whatever. It just makes me very uncomfortable to be liked and not like the other person.
     
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    its worse when you care more, because by definition you have less control
     

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