My girlfriend and I met about 8 months ago through a mutual friend and hit it off within the first week of meeting. She ended up breaking up with her bf of 8 months 3 days after we met because he couldn't please her both sexually and emotionally. This led her to have an insatiable sex drive that I could barely fill. for the first 3 months of our relationship we couldn't be closer, but around christmas her grandfather died, and her mother found a used condom wrapper of ours in the trash (she lives at home). Since then she has become more and more emotionally distant, and her sexual interest in me has dropped to zero. I don't exaggerate when i say she refuses to see me anywhere that isn't a public place. I've asked her on multiple occations what is wrong and she just tells me she has issues to deal with and she will work through them herself. It is obvious her mother hates me, and when I do manage to convince her to come to my place, she is anxious and obviously does not want to be there. She has a fair amount of emotional issues from her past, but is a very intellegent and mature, and usually can deal with these things. My problem lies in the fact that I tend to shift moods from one extreme to the other. Most of the time I am quite content with our relationship, but others I cannot stand to even talk to her. She has most definetly changed over the last 4-5 months and aspects of her i used to find quirky grind on my nerves, and she makes no attempt to curb them. I only used to get into a passing bad mood for 5-10 min and it would pass, but now they last upwards of 3 days when I cannot talk to her without getting mad. She still insists that she loves me, and based on her personality most likely would never cheat on me, but she is emotionally void and will do nothing to let me help her. I very much do not want to break up with her. I considered myself to have an extremely high standard for women before I met her, which let me to be single for several years. She is one of the only people I've met to even come close to what I'm looking for. I feel like if it ended, I will be in another emotional rut like one that led me to be unlikable and bitter in the past. She tries to please me but it is obvious she is not interested, and frequently breaks down crying after the little sex we have. I dont want to force her to do anything so I've stopped trying to be intimate all together. I really don't know what to do, I can't talk to her about it, and she can't fix it on her own.