How do you effectively bring this subject up? Like say you've been with someone for a while but little things are starting to bug you, like maybe she's nagging too much, or not being respectful, being taken for granted, etc. Some people would just up and leave. That's probably not the best course of action cuz maybe there's potential left. Some people would turn it into a petty argument that wouldn't turn into anything good. But what's the right way to do this? Me, being logical, would probably say something like "Hey, we need to talk. I think you've been being disrespectful because you've done x, y, and z, which said to me that you're not really interested..." or something like that. I've also learned that I'm too lawyerly when it comes to this type of stuff and that presenting evidence to support your point, while logical, is not necessarily the best way to go about it (I'm taking this completely on blind faith because being logical and presenting evidence to support claims is the only way that makes sense to me). So anyway, how do you do this? How do you effectively say "I'm not happy with the following aspects of your behavior/how you treat me, it's not something I want in a gf, and I'm not going to continue to put up with it," without sounding like an ultimatum-dropping douche-wad? Every time I've tried this before in the past, well, it seems I haven't had a girl mature enough to discuss things. Everything I said was met with "whatever, you do the same thing." Of course, she couldn't provide examples to support her claim (likely because I wasn't actually doing that stuff and she was just being immature and trying to turn everything around). At that point do you just say "forget this, you're too immature?" I'm trying to study up on this stuff while I'm single right now.