SRS When your family tears down your purpose....

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  1. Mangopork

    Mangopork New Member

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    .....What do you do?

    When your family makes it their sole priority to be emotionally belligerent about what you are doing with your life to the point of sabotaging it.

    What do you do?
     
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    get away from them.

    and if that doesn't send the message clearly enough, completely cut them out of your life.
     
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    Is what you're doing somehow a threat to their way of life? Or are they trying to make themselves feel better by making you feel worse?:squint:
     
  5. freckleface

    freckleface expose the raw nerve and get on with our lives...

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    Sometimes when people love you they think they know what is best! The best thing to do(imo) is to tell them that you are happy that they love you so much. However you would like to live your life and make your own choices without being belittled for them. Ask them to just be there for you if the time comes!
     
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    :werd: and if they can't accept this... well, I'd say do what is best for you in the end. Do what makes you happy. If your family doesn't support you and if they don't want to do what really makes you happy, do they really love you? Or do they just want to make decisions for you?
     
  7. BoomBoomBoy

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    Nice in threory, rare in practice. If your family is that domineering with you as a young adult, they're probably not going to respond to that request.
     
  8. 7960

    7960 New Member

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    exactly.

    Do this
    Sometimes when people love you they think they know what is best! The best thing to do(imo) is to tell them that you are happy that they love you so much. However you would like to live your life and make your own choices without being belittled for them. Ask them to just be there for you if the time comes!
    Then move out, because 99/100 says it won't work.
     
  9. freckleface

    freckleface expose the raw nerve and get on with our lives...

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    I never said that this would work on changing them! However you can tell them this while you take control of your own life!
     
  10. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    Can I ask what it is that they "tear you down" about???
     
  11. Diesel66

    Diesel66 My standards for women is like rent-a-centers stan OT Supporter

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    true, but make sure your idea isn't completely insane and they aren't trying to save you from doing something incredibly stupid.
     
  12. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    That's what I'm trying to find out. My older sister is...let's just say a complete idiot. She constantly makes the absolute WORST decisions and when we all try to help her find the right one's she goes on a tangent of "NONE OF YOU ARE EVER ON MY SIDE!!!!!!!!!! :mb:" :rolleyes: So I'd rather make sure our TS isn't just blind to her own shitty decisions.
     
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    Your family may actually be correct that you're not really making good decisions about your life. So....are you?



    Regardless, it's your life. So move away, reduce or stop contact, and start living your life as you will.

    The only way to really change your family's opinion, and to shut their mouths, is to end up with a life that is wonderful, happy and successful.

    With some families, this is much more easily achieved by being far, far away from them.
     
  14. Ameter

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    if it's important to you, you forge ahead without their support

    When I first told my mom I was going back to school, she told me I was only going to fail out and waste my money.
     
  15. chrissponias

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    If you are convicted, and you really believe in your purpose, then your family cannot prevent you from achieving your goal.

    But is it really good for you?

    This is the real question.
     
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    convicted? :rofl: do you mean convinced?
     
  17. no lol today

    no lol today Soy la bailarina de la muerta. OT Supporter

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    Cut ties.

    It hurts, but it maintains your sanity.
     
  18. Darketernal

    Darketernal Watch: Aria The Origination =)

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    I also say escape from their clutches.
     

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