when to say i love you?

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  1. Jinx

    Jinx Active Member

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    when should someone say that in a relationship?
     
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    When they love the other person....and you know it.
     
  3. Jack Horner

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    After my last relationship -- I'm never saying it until the other person says it.
     
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    i'm kind of waiting for him to say it first, but i really feel it.. and i have a feeling that he's kind of apprehensive about saying it because of his past relationships.
     
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    i havn't said i love you in a long time, and all the times before that i have i never really meant it and i was just an immature person. i dont know when i'll say it again, but i have a feeling it'll only be with a girl i see myself actually marrying. not just a girl i really care about.
     
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    It's been a while since I've had to decide, but my most recent "rule" was once you think you really want to say it...wait another 4 months.

    You could always kind of allude to it and see where that gets you and decide form there.
     
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  7. Jack Horner

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    Does he act like he loves you? Then say it. You're the woman, it's WAY more acceptable for you to say I love you in the beginning of a relationship than it is for him.

    It's sad though. If you love someone, you should be able to say I love you. Women complicate everything.
     
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    The reason I have trouble saying it is because of the "BUT YOU SAID YOU LOVED ME" line.
     
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    he definitely acts like it.

    i've thought about kind of slipping it in if i wake up in the middle of the night.. i tend to wake up a few times in the middle of the night and move to cuddle next to him. i was going to just kind of say it as i readjusted against him to see what he'd say. :o if he got freaked out, i could just say that i was still asleep. if he said it back, i could ask him about it later.
     
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    Very true. Not when you like them a lot, not when you think it'll get you some sex or jewelery or whatever, but when you actually feel it.
     
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    just say it. he'll probably be thankful that you did it first.
     
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    My rule is:

    no sooner than 6 months.... Jerk off to them, and if you still want to go visit them/hang out imediately after, you might be in love. :hsugh:
     
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    Roffle!!!
     
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    :rofl::rofl::rofl:
     
  15. 5 years of marriage.
     
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    When you feel it. But I'll never understand people who can say it in 2 weeks or something crazy like that :dunno:
     
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    meh the current girl im seeing keeps trying to sucker me into it, i can feel it. stupid crazy chicks.

    BUT YOU SAID YOU LOVED ME!!@!!@!@

    IMO, say it when you feel it. Don't try to sneak it in while hes half asleep, thats cowardly...if its that hard for you to do it than maybe you ought to rethink it. Hopefully the one you love would be able to handle that kind of information, whether or not they want to hear it. IMO, you would do better for your relationship by farting on him in the middle of the night rather than trying to drop something like "I love you" at that time. When you say it, make damn sure he knows you mean it and that you're completely comfortable with it.

    /2 cents
     
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    wait. the right time is 10 seconds before she says it herself. LOL

    but quite frankly i'd just wait for the other person to. just keep SHOWING you love her
     
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    If anything, any straight-up admission of love should be in a comfortable situation, and not one that creates a pressure on him to return the vocalization. If he has been burned in the past, then him admitting to being in love or even letting himself fall in love may be difficult.

    Since you seem to know he'll be slow, you might want to just ease along and let things happen at the pace you're both comfortable with.
     
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    by that standard i don't think ive ever been loved before :rofl:
     
  21. iwishyouwerebeer

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    Paging: JustaMeThang. Can we please form another sort of sticky that includes threads like these? Please!
     
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    omg, it's funny you say that because that's the rule I came up with a while ago.

    If you finish having sex, or if you spank it, and right when you finish if you still want to see them, then the relationship has potential :bigthumb:
     
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    I say make sure you really have that feeling for this person, if you can see youself actually married to this person, and doin't mind the idea of living with the person and starting to settle down then say it. Even if you do feel that way i would still wait at least 2 months.

    My ex said it to me first. We was just finishing a phone conversation about the date we had the day before where I took her to a concert and she was so happy that she got to go. Also i had just helped her out getting her through a hardtime she was in. But before we ended the convosation she said it and i was like "o.kkkkk" for a second but i started to think a little on why she said and then i said it back. At that point we was both at that point to where we could see our selves in each others lives for years to come.
     
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    Why do you NEED to say it? stop making a farce out of something which should come most naturally. If you're both in LOVE< believe me, you will be able to tell without having to say a single thing, and then it will simply come out during love making or any other passionate moment, or not! as long as you "FEEL" what you feel, keep trucking... words are meaningless!
     
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    If you're really worried about it I would get drunk and say it to him and watch his reaction. Obviously if he seems put off, drop it. If he seems receptive say it again later when you're sober.
     
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