to approach a widow? A girl I know lost her husband about a month ago, but it was a looong time coming, he had an inoperable brain tumor and took like 3 years to die, but he was at home with her and their kids through it. I don't want to sound like a dick here, like I was just waiting for it, because I wasn't. Also, how would you approach her? Seems like a completely different set of rules. I wouldn't be surprised if it was a year or more before someone would be ready, I probably wouldn't have been.