When does it end?

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  1. AstroGirl

    AstroGirl If I don't respond it's because I have severe ADD

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    Her mosa? ITS MY MOSA!!!
    I feel like I am a good person, and I constantly try to perfect myself in every aspect of my life. I feel like I am a good friend, and an amazing girlfriend. But time after time I keep getting shat on by these asshole guys that I really should never have cared about to begin with! The past three serious relationships I have been in I have been cheated on, I have attempted to stay and fight it out. But just end up dragging myself through a world of pain. Leaving me empty and feeling stupid. I feel like I am fine being single, and I do not want an SO. Then someone comes along and convinces me otherwise, I take a risk I fall/ I crash/ I burn. I pick myself up, I swear off men, then the cycle begins again.

    I don't get this. How could someone do something like this and still sleep at night? Take a vulnerable precious being, smash it to bits. And then carry on like nothing ever happened?

    I keep telling myself what goes around comes around and they will gets theirs in the end. But jeeebus! When will I get mine?

    CLIFFS: Just a rant...
     
  2. the ground folds

    the ground folds rest your trigger on my finger

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    leave em? honestly, i dont see how you can try to fight it out with someone who has cheated on you. Obviously there are a lot of feelings involved and maybe thats why you try to fight it out, but u cant allow yourself to get shitted on. I cant imagine trying to stick around with someone who has cheated on me, it just shows a whole lot about them if they can do that to you. You will get yours, its not something that you deserve but when it all comes down to it you will end up with something great.
     
  3. Karma is real. They will get theirs, and you will get yours...
     
  4. JordanClarkson

    JordanClarkson OT Supporter

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    Love sucks :hug:
     
  5. scifimom

    scifimom Fear is the mind killer. I will face my fear and l

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    I'm glad you're taking care of you. Some people just sense the vulnerable and attack it. They suck. Please don't become hard/jaded, you sound like a nice person. Good luck- and yes, they will get theirs, and you'll get yours-but the waiting sometimes rots.
     
  6. ProneToEpisodes

    ProneToEpisodes New Member

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    You will be ok
     
  7. chica&buddies

    chica&buddies Active Member

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    :wavey: woman, everything will be okay. ;)

    steer clear of the assholes, let me tell you that! i've recently come upon a nice guy, and he is AMAZING!

    that said, tho, like you, i'm fine being single as well. in fact, i think i'll be single forever. :sad2: when i'm in a relationship (or like someone), i lose focus of the things that important in my life. :dunno: maybe i suck at time management. :wtc:

    who am i kidding... i do have a boyfriend, and his name is school ;)
     
  8. AstroGirl

    AstroGirl If I don't respond it's because I have severe ADD

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    :rofl: I heard you give, and he takes. Maybe you need to re-eavluate the relationship :mamoru:
     
  9. AstroGirl

    AstroGirl If I don't respond it's because I have severe ADD

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    Her mosa? ITS MY MOSA!!!
    I know, I know. I am a strong girl, and I will be okay. There is no need to cry over split milk right? But man-o-man, how do you sense an asshole? How do I prevent this from happening? Celebecy? (SP?)
     
  10. scifimom

    scifimom Fear is the mind killer. I will face my fear and l

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    The REAL assholes are the hardest to spot! They perfect their art of deception. Nice guys may seem boring or nerdy at first, but they usually make better bfs/husbands than the hottie/overconfident/dangerous/flashy types. Look for guys with decent jobs/good work ethics and intelligence over appearances.
     
  11. gookarachie

    gookarachie New Member

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    This is so true.

    Its good that you are taking care of yourself. So many people get so down after getting shit on like that time after time that they just give up on themselves and everything else. Don't let that happen. Keep taking care of yourself and the right guy will come around and you will get yours. you will see. Be patient.
     
  12. Shelby500

    Shelby500 New Member

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    dont give up searching, your dream guy may be right under your nose and you never knew it.

    as for spotting an asshole I dunno i usually have a "sense" for assholes be it girls or guys.
     
  13. sire

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    same exact thing happend with me my last 3 gfs all cheated on me and left me for someone else, or their ex. i have a huge trust issue and am very insecure and it is affecting my current relationship horribly her ex started talking to her for the first time in 3 years.. i freaked out i told her it made me uncomfortable and didn't want her to talk to him. she refuses to not talk to him. even though it hurts me she doesn't want me to controll her life. she swears she'll never cheat on me or leave me for someone else but i can't help but worry about it. i mean the guy lives out of state now.. but man it is driving me crazy
     
  14. PuppyCat

    PuppyCat O.T. Mom

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    I'll agree with that 100% !
     
  15. okita1

    okita1 Great spirits have always encountered violent oppo

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    meh, i used to agree with that until someone came into my life :noes:
    hang in there it will happen when you least expect it
     
  16. slantedvision

    slantedvision The Yellow Lord, FuManChu OT Supporter

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    The same applies both ways. There are plenty of evil hurtful women out there. I'm just trying to get myself back in order after being crushed by one...I must be dense...she was planning a wedding with another guy and I never even picked up on it until after I slept with her... I hate being used as a tool and that's exactly what happened here.

    It's gonna take some time, it's rough getting hurt, tossed aside, or just generally treated like a peice of meat. But eventually, the nice guys will finally find a nice girl and the nice girls will find a nice guy. It definately is karma, but it's a sad fact that you're gonna go through some rough times before you get there...unless you're insanely lucky :p
     
  17. TheMyth

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    Cheating and hitting are things you dont forgive or try to get past because if they really cared they wouldnt have done it.

    There isnt any way to definitely avoid people like that, the only advice I could give is that if you meet someone youre interested in take things slower than you have. It will give you more time to get to know them before you get too involved and if the guy is worth being with then he's not going to mind taking things a bit slower.
     
  18. Shadoxity

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    yea this is exactly what is wrong with alot of woman out there today, which leave the good proper nice guys who would actually respect you in the shitter...

    example my bet is that most of these guys are actually a "bad boyish" type, and you have been attracted to them for god knows what and the wrong reasons, where you could of met a good guy in the same place if u didnt jump on the first sleesy guy that came up and hit on you (who you found out to be attractive, prob cause he was outgoing, or bad or just did something u thought was good) then you coulda had the chance at a nicer guy who wouldnt of cheated on you...

    signs that they are bad guys are usually, trying to get into you pants on first date/ without you asking/motioning for them to.
    Seedy moustache's (hehehe couldnt resist, but most ppl with them are sleezy - no offence)

    and they can do this to you cause a) they dont really love you and are just trying to get into your pants...
    b) they are just using you for their own means, (be it sex or some other kick they get from you)
    but in the end it sounds like the guys u have been picking ARE these "bad boy's" that i have no fkn idea what women find in them (unless they wanna be treated like shit, etc)

    for example, my current gf (that i kinda swept off her feet from her last bf.. hehehe)
    neway history is (shes 15 im 17)
    neway at 13 she started goin out with this guy (first look i could see he was one of those bad boy types, and further into teh story i will explain how he treated her etc)
    and they went out for 2 yrs, basically she thought that he was the best she could get (you know how u all think that ur ugly etc etc) and so she had stayed with him, and basically the way that he had treated her was that, he never made effort to see her, like friday nights etc would go out with mates rather than see her, and never even tried to see her, (she would go down to sydney on a sat, while he worked and stayed at his nans place until he came home, and he said that SHE never made an effort to see him...)
    neway everything that she had described to me was that he was only using her for sex,(never took her out newhere, or tried to spend time with her, basically treated her craply, and he had broke it off with her at 1 point and then she took him back :o i was like WTF mate... but after that for a while and i started to talk to her and she stopped liking him over the last month or so that they were goin out...(he had a seedy moustache btw ;) lol)
    neway he ended up braking up with her, and about a week after that i got her to meet me at a shoping centre (erina, australia) and basically swept her off her feet, cause i am actually nice and respected her etc etc. so neway we been goin out for 2 months now, and she said she never thought that she would have anyone as good as me, (i think the same cause she is beautiful and im nothin special) but basically if you go more off the personality rather than jus first looks, or the first sleezy come up to you they have confidence and are just trying to get in ur pants person, then you will find someonethat wont cheat on you...

    Sorry this was half a rant heheh
    but hope this helps!!!!
     
  19. Epiphany

    Epiphany 78% of all statistics are made up on the spot

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    Dear god... I feel like I'm looking in a mirror. It is SO hard to spot the creeps because they seem so perfect at first.... until they suck you in and then treat you like shit. If you find the clue let me know!

    I don't date guys really for looks. I mean... there has to be an attraction of course but I guess part of it is lack of confidence on my end. People tell me that I could be dating guys who look better. I've always thought that the hot guys tend to play the fields too much. I'm starting to realize that looks don't really matter in the loyalty department.
     
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  20. chica&buddies

    chica&buddies Active Member

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    how do you sense an asshole? :dunno: i can sense them pretty well. i've been known to pick up on minute details. :o

    ask me and i can tell you if said future men are assholes. ;)

    one good indicator a guy's an asshole is if he's trying to get in your pants too soon. ;) if all he talks about is sex, it's usually a baaaaad thing.
     
  21. Riconosuave

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    Keep chugging along Insomniac. At least you can say that you have loved someone. I've dated around, but haven't really been in a very serious relationship. I've never even told anyone that I love them. It's sad, but I'm just too afraid to open up. There are a lot of nice guys out there. One day, you will find one of them. Just don't give up hope!
     
  22. calilynne

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    I'm really sorry that your relationships have transpired negatively. There are only a few factors I can suggest looking at in the future to attept to have better, more fulfiling relationships and even these are not definate.

    - Do you look for men that need "fixing"
    - Are you, and they, too young to be in a loyal, loving relationship
    - Do they have strong relationships with their parents, mostly their mothers
    - Do they use drugs or abuse alcohol
    - Do you rush into these relationships prior to knowing them and setting boundaries
    - Do you know enough about how they have handled their previous relationships prior to being in one with you
    - What kind of job or school aspirations do they have - are they responsible and respect themselves
    - Do you set the right limits from the get-go (let them know what you will and wont accept)

    Once you feel you are not being treated right, dont spend any more time trying to make it right. You are the only person you can control. Life is too short, once you feel your values are being compromised make a fast exit.
     
  23. BlazinBlazer Guy

    BlazinBlazer Guy Witness to The De-Evolution of Mankind.

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    Mind elaborating on these four points?

    -I'm not quite sure what you mean by need "fixing"
    -What does having a strong relationship with my mother have to do with anything? (I'm an only child, father died of a heart attack at 15 so my mom and I are all that is left of close family)
    -Handling previous relationships.... is it a bad sign when someone has never had a relationship of ANY kind by the time they are ~20 years old? And by that I mean maybe a few random dates here and there but never more than one with a given person (resulting in no physical contact of any kind including hand-holding)
    -Again, what do you mean by the job/school aspirations... not sure what that's indicating.

    I'm just trying to see if I'm as fucked up as I think I might be :o Even though my professional life is excellent, and I'm well respected/trusted by employers and fellow employees.
     
  24. NJGuy

    NJGuy "Fuckmefuckmefuckmefuckmef uckmefuckmefuckmefuckm OT Supporter

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    What really sucks is going through all of that time and time again then meet a truly great person. Proceeding to shit all over them, drag their heart through hell, and never really know why you did. Not knowing why you became what you hated. Truly feeling bad about it. A new pain that adds to your old. umm, yeah.. so make sure you dont continue the circle ;p

    I'll give you a tip. You want someone who will be faithful? You want to know how you can tell? A faithful person isnt faithful because of you, your looks, your feelings towards them. They arnt faithful because of how much or how little they feel for you.

    They are faithful because of their own basic morals, how they feel when they look in the mirror. It has nothing to do with anyone else but themselves. Im always faithful and it has never had anything to do with any of my SO's and everything to do with me.

    Sorry to hear about that Insomniac. Ive taken notice to a few of your posts. You seem like a smart chick. Im sure you will get through it fine.
     
  25. Bruticus

    Bruticus half dead OT Supporter

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    So true dont give up, you won't get anywhere or anything without taking risks and putting yourself out there to possibly be hurt. It can hurt a hell of a lot but the potential gain from it is huge.

    I too never have trouble sensing assholes, and I have absolutely nfi how all these girls who I know ALWAYS fall for them and get stepped on. It's just stupid heh. They completely ignore the 'nice' and stable guys and always go for the mental cases who fuck them around, go figure :p

    But yeh, if you're looking for the right things you'll eventually find it and you'll be all set :) Since you seem to be having the same sort of people all the time, why don't you try and meet some people you normally wouldn't talk to, people might surprise you :)
     

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