When do you ask to meet with online dating?

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  1. BradUF

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    My biggest fear here is that I am going to get friendzoned if I let things go to long. I am also concerned if I ask too soon she will flip out. I am really bad at flirting online and have no idea what to do.
     
  2. iwishyouwerebeer

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    Hell if I know, I stick to meeting guys irl.
     
  3. lauren

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    i started talking to my bf in jan, and we met in march. thats my only experience in the matter. :dunno:
     
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    I tend to let her make that call. Sure its possible to be friendzoned, but I do it so that I don't seem like every other online guy. Also, try to say "hey, I'm going to be in your area this weekend" or something like that. That is if they aren't from your area. I've used that with success more often than not.
     
  5. BradUF

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    Well she lives within 9 miles of me so it's not going to be a long drive or anything.
     
  6. PocoDiablo

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    My rule of thumb is to chat online briefly no more than 5-10 times without getting a phone number. Then switch to phone and make 2-5 phone calls before asking on a date. If you don't get a date by then, stop wasting time and move on. You will either have a connection or not.

    And by date, I mean meet somewhere public like a Starbucks. If she doesn't want to meet in person, you are wasting your time on a woman who just wants to friendzone you. Move on, and quickly.
     
  7. BradUF

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    Would it be bad to meet at a bar like place on a Friday?
     
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    Yes, you should have something better to do on a Friday night than sit at a bar waiting for a stranger.

    And even if you don't, you shouldn't admit it ;)
     
  9. BradUF

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    Oh well, I have parties and stuff to go to but I just wanted to pick a place thats well know.
     
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    Friends talk, lovers make love.
     
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    ^^ as early as possible without coming on like a freight train. You don't want to scare them off either.

    Generally every few times you talk to them you need to step it up a notch. Like Poco said - email them maybe half a dozen times, then get digits. Talk to them a couple of times and then meet them. Date 1 is a bit of a getting to know you, if the chemistry's strong go in for the kill but if you're walking home from date 3 and haven't even kissed them yet it's more likely than not that you've blown your chances, or never had them because you weren't right for each other.
     
  12. BradUF

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    Would asking to go to see a movie for the first date be bad?
     
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    Horrible. How do you talk and get to know her?

    First date ideas should focus on conversation. Starbucks, upscale bar/restaurant (but NOT for dinner! just snacks), walk on the beach, or sitting at a little cafe on the sidewalk ... all places that are public and you can just TALK.
     
  14. BradUF

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    I figure that, it's just I know she likes movies alot.
     
  15. BradUF

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    I dunno I am worse at online dating then in real life. In real life I can atleast make my self stand out unline online where the girls get like 100 msgs a day.
     
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    The point is to NOT take her to a movie and find out if she likes YOU a lot. Get it? :big grin: otherwise you're just some chump with a wallet who pays her way with nothing in return. What do you get out of that? Nothing.
     
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    I don't even understand why people go to the movies on dates. I go to the movies usually once or twice a week by myself. A lot of my friends think it's nerdy, but I don't see why it is a social thing. It pisses me off when people talk, and I hate sharing armrests. And I love movies.

    The last time I took a girl to see a movie was to see Casino Royale on opening night. I really wanted to see that movie, and it sounded a lot more fun than the plans we had to play pool in the first place. I suck at pool anyways. It wasn't a great date, but I was in an awesome mood after seeing that movie.

    The only time I will do it intentionally is to get her in a certain mood I want her in. If I want her horny, i'll take her to see a scary movie. If I want her to think of me as a potential LTR, i'll see a Notebook-style movie. Or to just loosen up and have a good time, a comedy.

    But i'd only do that on like a 3rd+ date.
     
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    I would only do a movie date after the kino boundary has been crossed and you're getting touchy-feely. Otherwise you're just watching a movie, it's a waste of 2 hours where you could be getting to know them.
     
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    quit caring so much about what chicks think and have some fun for once
     
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    That's pretty much how I like things to go!!
     
  21. rockurbody

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    Movie's not a date thing, unless you would like to discuss the content later or as above mentioned, get the person in the mood you'd like.
     

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