I don't know how to spit it out, so if I ramble I'm sorry. At one point I used to date this girl, we were friends before hand. We always told eachother that no matter what happens, in the end, we'll always be friends. Unforunately, I can no longer agree with this. I'm in an extremely healthy relationship. I'm happy, smiling, and just about every feeling I have is golden. No bad blood, no issues, and most importantly, no drama. This friend of mine has made some really, really bad decisions in the past. Over time she started to correct them, started being much more independant and realized "whats best" for her. What that mainly includes was her love life / relationship, school, and her health. I'm happy to say she's looking good again, lost her weight, and is now finishing up her last couple semesters before she graduates. However, this is the problem: She's deciding to go back to her ex-boyfriend. The ex is a fake, someone who I saw through from day one. His family, including him, are Jehovah Witnesses. This doesn't matter to me, as I'm the least biased and racist person you'll probably ever meet / talk to. In this situation, it does. Let me explain: He's an alcoholic, excessively drinking nightly with complete disregard to anyones feelings. As of recently, the past two months (since they broke up) he "quit" drinking and has "changed his ways". Personally I think it's him trying to impress her, trying to make her think everythings okay. I might be selfish for thinking this and he might be better now, but hey, I have a little bit of a grudge against a guy who messed with a friend, sue me. In the two years they were together, he didn't buy her a thing. Now, I'm not saying she's a "materialistic" girl, but, anniversarries, holidays, Valentines Day, birthdays, etc.. Not a THING. Why? Cause he's Jehovah Witness. Now, he's asking her to come Christmas Tree shopping, asking her what she wants for Christmas, bought her a $700 package to a spa at a hotel, etc. I guess what my problem is, is this: She won't agree / listen to anything I say. I'm not telling her no don't do it, but I'm definitely voicing a strong opinion. Although acknowledging my comments, she comepletly disregards them. She has to make her own decisions and learn from them, I know that. But, I don't want to see her hurt. Again, I'm in a relationship but I still "feel" for the girl. I want to make sure whatever decisions she makes, as a friend, that she's okay in the end. It kills me to know in 3 months, 4 months, things are going to drain down the tube again. I have an issue with the other guy, he hates me quite frankly. Why? Jealous of our friendship. He's stated multiple times that if they're together, he doesn't want me in her life at all. I seem to always be the "core" of their fights, arguements, and drama. He thinks somethings going on with us, why, I don't know. It's hurting me. In fact, it's killing me. It breaks my heart to see her go through this between the two of us (him and I). OT: What do I do? Do I just let her live her life without me? Should I stop placing myself into their problems?