Just wondering, at what point do you think of yourself and your SO, as being a couple? The first date you went out on? The first time you kissed each other? etc???? Someone said once, that you don't have a "real" relationship until you have had sex or intimate relations. Just wondering because I feel as though I am giving too little too late. We always hold hands when walking around, usually spoon on the couch and stuff like that, but I've never really pashed her (shes kissed me on the mouth before tho, but not open mouth, it was a goodbye kiss). She invited me to her works xmas party in which the invitation said "to T and partner". I consider her to be a girlfriend, but I'm not sure if she thinks the same. There's no way I'm going to talk to her about it, seeing as it is awkward as hell. We've been dating for like 3 months, and there's been no mention of "anniversaries" by her, and I always though that girls went nuts for that sort of thing. I also wonder if some of her shyness is due to inexperience because she acts a lot like I acted a year ago. I think I'm just getting insecure, but I know she's busy with work and some stuff has been happening in her life which probably took her mind off me a bit.