FRK What's your safe word?

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  1. Falconer

    Falconer OT Supporter

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    Post 'em up! Do you make it something funny to help kill the mood in case of emergency?
     
  2. Phantom Empress

    Phantom Empress mmmmmm tasty!!!

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    you don't really want a MOOD killer... but something that will stand out and not be said usually In the "in the heat of it" conversation.

    ours is Hippo Hippo
     
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    sorry, but what the hell is a safe word
     
  4. Phantom Empress

    Phantom Empress mmmmmm tasty!!!

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    Word, signal, Gesture etc that is used in sexual play that signals "i'm not comfotable with this Please STOP". Mostly used in Scene play that can be dangerous, uncomfortable or new territory.

    Example: I'm getting spanked but it's going way to far for me to enjoy it and i'm not comfy with it, Say the safeword, and it all stops. You figure out what was wrong and possibly adjust and resume play or move on to something else.

    Another: Tied up and gagged (thus can't speak) and I feel dizzy, lose sensation, get really sacared etc. I snap my fingers twice (or whatever signal) and play stops, the situation is reviewed and whatever discomfort, fear etc is fixed.
     
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    hippo hippo.......got it
     
  6. PocoDiablo

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    "quit" works for us.
     
  7. TireSmokinSRT

    TireSmokinSRT Bring in the stunt cock

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    "mayonaise"

    :rofl:


    seriously...
     
  8. Eviljosh

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    "harder"


    hasn't worked so well in the past
     
  9. Cherryfire

    Cherryfire "If we believe obsurdities, we shall commit atroci

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    Safe words are cute. I think paying attention and knowing your partner works better. If Im in an incredible state of misery/fear/etc..words are forgotten. I think I'd feel safer knowing my partner can recognize my signs of exhaustion and can stop to ask, "are you okay?" when appropriate.
     
  10. Whiffa

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    agreed. sometimes i get a little pain when we first start having sex, and he asks right away if I'm okay.

    Makes me feel much more comfortable that he can easily read my body language and adjusts appropriately
     
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    i think we did... banana last time? i dont really remember :mamoru:
     
  12. naughtie

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    Red light, Yellow light, or Green light.

    ...haven't used red light yet... :naughty:
     
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    TigreTek omega member OT Supporter

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    i don't rely on it as my signal to stop, however all tops can make mistakes. this is just a signal for something i may have missed.
     
  14. Cherryfire

    Cherryfire "If we believe obsurdities, we shall commit atroci

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    Fair point.
     
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    f/2.8L New Member

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    Ouch bitch!
     
  16. The Secretary

    The Secretary My domestic skills will rock your socks off!

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    I think we used banana at one point too. But the bf knows when Im not comfortable, and most of the time I can read my bf too. So it works for us.
     
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    i don't think i've ever wanted to stop

    but i'd probably just be like stop.

    if they don't wanna listen then they'll have no choice but to stop
     
  18. Lucky Penny

    Lucky Penny Mr. cut me some slack cause I don't wanna go back,

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    I agree with knowing your partner, but also that sometimes people miss things....

    As for the last safe-word a girl wanted to use: "George W. Bush!" - Talk about a mood killer (though it was never used)!
     
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    penut butter jelly time, penut butter jelly time
    penut butter jelly with a baseball bat!
     
  21. naughtie

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    :rofl:
     
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    That won't work in a rape fantasy role-playing session.
     
  23. BlondieAMC

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    "Stop" has worked for us. However, we are not into extremes or anything so a safe word such as hippo, banana, uncle or the such has not been necessary yet.

    I can see that if you do things such as asphyxiation, heavy bondage, ect. where a real safe word can definetly keep you and your partner safe from any danger.

    Perhaps i will make one up and start using it just incase one day i may need it.
     
  24. Phantom Empress

    Phantom Empress mmmmmm tasty!!!

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    mind you, i agree, The safe word can't replace that attention and intuition about your partner.. we work very much on him being able to read me, but there are times when it's hard to do, especially when he's pushing me beyond my boundry, I may be screaming Stop but it's just my reaction and i really want to keep going. He checks up on me a lot but if things get way to far, it's nice to have a back up for the times when it'll be hard to read my face or posture....
     
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    Phantom Empress mmmmmm tasty!!!

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    depending on the play, it may be hard to do.
     

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