What would you do/How would you feel about this

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  1. dontfearthegovt

    dontfearthegovt New Member

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    So my girlfriend (age 20) and I (age 19) are lookin for jobs for this summer.

    She called me today and told me that a friend of hers told her that internet websites are hiring attractive young ladies like my girlfriend to chat and strip online for 18/hour. they dont use their real names or show their faces according to my gf. she wanted to know what i thought about the idea. she was asking me because she sincerely wants to know how i feel about it and she wouldnt go off and do this without talking to me about it first.

    i told her the truth: the idea of her chatting/flirting and stripping for random anonymous men online made me sick to my stomach and i really really disliked the idea. she assured me it was discreet and she was only considering doing it for several hours a week. the reason she is considering it is because it is good money

    my question to you. how would you react if your girlfriend told you she was considering doing this? how would this make you feel? what would you do if she actually took the job?

    i am really against this and i dont want to let her do this. i feel like its really degrading and being her boyfriend, and i love her, i feel very uncomfortable with this. i dont know how i would react if she took this job. i feel like it might eat me up inside.
     
  2. teep

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    i wouldn't date the kind of girl that would be into that sort of thing. if it's justa fun fling then whatever, but chicks like that aren't exactly girlfriend material.
     
  3. tqpolo

    tqpolo ***** Platinum Member OT Supporter

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    So ask her if her body is only worth for $18/hr to see?
     
  4. mavfan1

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    well, i have posted my privates on OT, so i guess i couldn't be a hypocrite and get upset about it. do i think it is a good idea, no. stuff like that is like a gateway drug.

    i think at that age a real intership is extremely valuable. even if it is not paid.
     
  5. dontfearthegovt

    dontfearthegovt New Member

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    this is really fucking frustrating i have 2 exams in the next 3 hours and im distracted thinking about this shit!
     
  6. MattThom01

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    I see it as the same as dating a stripper....I wouldn't do it.

    She needs to realize that although they may say they will keep it anonymous, it won't be truly anonymous. There will always be the possibility that someone could find it, and she would regret it in the future.

    About the whole "don't want to let her do this" thing...I got news for you. You can't make her do anything...you can only control what you do.

    What concerns me is the fact that she's even considering it.
     
  7. vodkacollins

    vodkacollins New Member

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    what was her reaction when you told her how you felt about it? if she wanted your approval and you obviously didnt give it to her, she shouldnt be doing it then, right?

    i dont see this being you not "letting" her do this, but if its going to bother you like you say it will, she should not do it. i wouldnt willing do something like that if i knew it was going to bother my SO in that manner
     
  8. jmezz

    jmezz layin in bed stretchin my pumped quads for hours

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    Fixed.
     
  9. MattThom01

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    Job security wise, it's not even that smart of an idea. Sure, she'd make a shitload of money. But, unless she wanted to do it for the rest of her life, or get into porn, it's not really going to give her any benefits later. It won't look good on a resume, won't contribute anything towards job experience in the field she wants to get into.

    She'd be better off getting an entry level job in the field she is interested, or even an unpaid internship.

    And come on...she has to have a brain...does she honestly think that she would get into porn as a 20 year old and NOT regret it later?
     
  10. Falconer

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    Is your gf doing it because she needs a high paying job? ($18/hr is pretty high when you're 20). If so, she obviously doesn't see anything wrong with using her sexuality for monetary gain. Decide if that is a trait you desire in a gf.

    Is she doing it because it will boost her self-esteem from the attention she will get from it? If so, decide if that is a trait you desire in a gf. Extrapolate and think of other scenarios where this type of personality trait may manifest.

    These things come in stages. First it might be "omg... stripping online... that's so naughty." Then her comfort zone extends a little bit. Next it might be flirting with guys IRL to get something she wants. Obviously most women know that sexuality = power, but many of them are uncomfortable using it for such*. However it comes in baby steps. Next it might be fucking her boss for a promotion at work. And by then she's pretty much a whore although some people would still come here and post a thread about "I found out my gf fucked her boss for a promotion at work. What should I do?" Now obviously most girls don't wake up one morning and say "I would definitely have no problems fucking my boss for a promotion," just like how most people don't wake up one day and say "gee, I think I'll try heroin today." But they start with alcohol or smoking when they're younger, then eventually try pot or whatever. And then vicodin or oxys or whatever. Then heroin. Each new step they take expands their comfort zone and what they think is "ok" behavior a bit. Hopefully you get my analogy.

    But the bottom line is, it's up to you. But don't make the mistake of trying to prevent her from doing it. That will build resentment and lead to bad things. You can't change people. You can only hope to find people with whom you are extremely compatible. If your SO is doing something that is questionable, take it as an indication of their fundamental personality construct more so than an item that is up for discussion. If someone wants to do something and you prevent or try to prevent them from doing so, nothing good will come from it.

    There are too many "my gf did something whorish... how do I stop it?" threads. There needs to be more "I realize my gf is a whore and I dumped her" threads.




    *the key is finding a woman who either a) has no desire to use her sexuality for personal gain, or b) values her relationship with you so much that she wouldn't possibly risk doing something slutty to jeopardize that. Option A is better but rare. Option B requires being extremely high value yourself.
     
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  11. Falconer

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    Holy shit my last post was brilliant albeit a bit scattered.
     
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    From personal experience, no. I would not want to keep her if she went ahead and did it.

    It all depends on how you perceive things. Like previously noted. Something like this can lead into other areas of interest once this door is opened, and that road i have already been down. If you don't want her to do it you need to let her know of your feelings, make SURE she knows. And once she makes hers you can act on yours whether negative or positive.

    But question still remains will she be upset you did not let her experience this and resent you for it. Will she takes you saying No to it and try on something else. :dunno: This can be debated all day. But you should make up your mind and make a stand.

    I still say i wouldn't let her do it.
     
  13. XaPU!M

    XaPU!M Active Member

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    I wouldn't be cool with it for a lot of reasons, but especially since it is for $18 an hour. That company would be making a shitload more off of her per hour through advertisements on the site and horny men spending money.
     
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    If my girlfriend of 3 years brought this up to me with a straight face i would leave her no questions asked. Even if she was just CONSIDERING it... I would lose every ounce of respect for anyone considering stripping online for $18/h.
     
  15. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    :rofl: Gotta love that she's only now coming into the thought of selling her body at age 20.

    Everyone has already sad the right thngs. If it bothers you then tell her. If doesn't, then get over it. If it does bug you and she does it anyway then you have a pretty clear idea of how she values your opinion and pretty much can see what kind of girl she is. She can easily find a normal-paying summer job that doesn't involve her exploiting her body for men to masturbate to.
     
  16. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    PS-My great guy friend met a chick he really liked. When he asked her what she did she completely beat around the bush and said she worked with computers (which he loved because he's a computer nerd). Turned out she worked on one of these websites, except it showed her face (which is how he found out). Pretty funny at the time. He no longer wanted to date her after that.
     
  17. Falconer

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    So you're against it from a financial perspective and not from a value perspective?

    At least you've thought about why it would bother you :bigthumb:
     
  18. Aronomy

    Aronomy Get your COME ON!

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    Haha, taking that job would be so low class of her. Tell her to use her brain for money, not sell out her body. What a slore.
     
  19. dontfearthegovt

    dontfearthegovt New Member

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    Well i talked to her and told her how i felt and she said she wouldnt do it. she told me she cared for the health of our relationship more than she did the money and that she was only asking me to know how i felt.

    i love her
     
  20. Falconer

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    :rofl:
     
  21. Falconer

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    Glad it worked out. I hope this doesn't cause you guys any more problems in the future because it's been established now that you have different personal values concerning using one's body for money/gain/power.
     
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    lol @ only getting paid $18/hr for getting naked. i understand its good money at 18-20 but still.. :rofl:

    hell no would i let my GF do that
     
  23. KindlyCuddly

    KindlyCuddly Irina Lazareanu

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    twenty bucks an hour to not wear clothes strikes me as a lot for a summer job.
     
  24. owenstar

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    Some of you are pretty uptight...

    While I agree its totally what the OP is down for....

    I guess I dont have hang ups about this kinda thing....I have dated a couple strippers and it doesnt bother me....Women in daily business use sex or their sexuallity, I certainly dont have a problem with someone who is even more honest about it....the stripper things didnt work out, not because they are sluts or whatever...(I dont wanna date a prude anyway)...one was just really not fun to be around, had nothing to do with her views on sex or regular morals....she just had too much baggage she couldnt let go of....the other was just plain fuckin nuts (dont tell me you havent dated nutty fucking receptionists or florists or whatever "normal" chicks do"

    I dont know if I am qualified to be the one to ask, as I dont get as paranoid in relationships as typical people do....I give all I have and dont really care if it doesnt turn out....I will meet someone else and try again...I also dont usually have all of my eggs in one basket....so my situation isnt the same as yours....

    But besides strippers I have dated a swinger and am currently dating a former escort (yes an actual whore)...and I havent met a chick as fun as this in a long ass time....I got no beefs about it.....I'd rather hang with an honest women who is comfortable in her skin/sexuality.....I mean different strokes I guess....some people want perfection, or maybe its easier to give advice on it than it is to actually find it....I got my flaws...let god or someone else judge people for the things they do....Sure some things are a deal breaker...for me this wouldnt be one....

    Here is what I can tell you....You know this woman better than any of us here...what is she like? Do you really feel this would lead her into drugs or porn or cheating? (cause normal girls do these things too) Is a job really a trigger, or was it always there???? These are the things to think about...Or is it you dont want anyone to see your girlfriend naked? You are young so its easy to get caught up in that kinda shit (I felt the same way) then you grow up get a few more girlfriends and realize her mouth has been on 36 dicks, in a row....so you can let it eat you up inside or realize your dick has been in 36 mouths too...hahahaha...So my advice, you know the girl??? Make your decision on that...

    Good luck
     
  25. Dio Seijuro

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    I feel this is very different than stripping in a strip club. This is a lot less direct. I don't think I would mind.

    I'd be wondering how you can even "get into it" stripping alone in front of the computer though. I mean, I would laugh if I am to do this.
     

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