What would OT do?

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  1. Guvnor

    Guvnor NYM3 and Me

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    SO I captured some chat packets this morning from lastnight. I was laying on the floor and the wife was on the couch typing her little fingers off. We had gotten into an argument earlier in the day.


    Wife: tell **** he needs to keep his eyes open for any fresh meat that is willing to date a woman with a child....lol

    Friend: He doesn't have any friends

    Wife: lol....well they don't have to be his friends :)

    Friend: We'll talk for sure

    Now, I have never met this chic. She just moved back in town and the wife has been trying to get me to meet up with her and her husband. Now after reading this...I have no desire to ever meet this cunt.

    So, do I turn into incredible Hulk when she gets home for this convo or do I sit back and keep sniffing, waiting to see something major, if anything.
     
  2. CorpseStreet

    CorpseStreet New Member

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    How exactly did you come across this? Did you go and snoop or did your wife just leave the im box open?
     
  3. Aquakittie

    Aquakittie Active Member

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    what does ANY of that even mean?
     
  4. NCS

    NCS Active Member

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    wat
     
  5. Guvnor

    Guvnor NYM3 and Me

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    I'm an IT guy. I come across everything.
     
  6. Aronomy

    Aronomy Get your COME ON!

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    I'm sure she was just joking...notice the lol at the end?

    Harmless. Do nothing.
     
  7. ChaCha

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  8. Guvnor

    Guvnor NYM3 and Me

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    Calming down...Thanks for you.
     
  9. Aquakittie

    Aquakittie Active Member

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    yeah its amazing what a keylogger can do.:ugh:
     
  10. Deborah

    Deborah Seeing is believing, but I don't want to know.

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    Yeah, she could totally be joking. If it really bothers you, ask her about it. :dunno:
     
  11. CorpseStreet

    CorpseStreet New Member

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    Well obviously you shouldn't snoop blah blah blah. I think it's best not to bring it up and leave it alone and if you see other warnings signs then get worried. She really could have just been joking. If you feel it is really necessary you say something just bring it up casually like it's not a big deal and ask her about it. If it comes across like you were snooping and checking up on her then an issue that could have easily been solved will become a bigger deal.
     
  12. SovietRussia

    SovietRussia What? You pooped in the refrigerator? OT Supporter

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    i would NOT ask her about it. she will think that you are spying on her (which it sounds like you are...but i would do the same thing :o) and then she will try and be even moar sneaky.

    you guys got into a fight, and she was just probably still heated. if the fight was your fault, man up, apologize and have sex. if it wasnt your fault, maintain status quo, but you dont want to turn this fight into an even bigger fight.
     
  13. Coottie

    Coottie BOOMER......SOONER OT Supporter

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    Short answer, he's reading her IM chat.

    Longer answer, He said he sniffed some chat packets and that he's an IT guy. So she's chatting on her laptop on the couch while connected to an instant messenger program. Networks communicate by breaking all the messages down into something called packets. These packets are what are sent over the internet. A packet sniffer grabs these packets off of the network, makes a copy of them and stores them on a machine for later analysis/reading.

    It's the same thing as reading someone's mail, tapping their phone and or going through there stuff. Bottom line, he's spying on his wife's IM conversations without her knowledge and/or consent.

    IMO your wife is looking for a boy toy and you should be concerned. However given the fact that you find it necessary to snoop means that you inherently don't/didn't trust her to begin with. Why the fuck did you marry her in the first place?
     
  14. CorpseStreet

    CorpseStreet New Member

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    whoaaa, wtf. That's definitely not cool :nono:
     
  15. Coottie

    Coottie BOOMER......SOONER OT Supporter

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    Agreed....Isn't it funny how saying, "I sniffed some packets" sounds so much less worse than "I snooped on my wife without her knowledge/consent"?
     
  16. CorpseStreet

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    It sounds harmless until you explain what it actually entails :ugh:
     
  17. Guvnor

    Guvnor NYM3 and Me

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    It was harmless. Snooping or spying or....protecting myself...call it what you like. I don't want to debate that. Thanks for your answer. Coottie, thanks for the layman description of the situation.
     
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    youre screwed IMO buddy...call cheaters and get her on tv!
     
  19. Guvnor

    Guvnor NYM3 and Me

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    Lmao. Thanks!
     
  20. dumb_end_user

    dumb_end_user Sad Gus

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    I feel sorry for you (and your wife and kids) that you feel that you need to spy on your wife. :down:
     
  21. Falconer

    Falconer OT Supporter

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    Packet sniffing. Nobody left any windows open.

    That being said, I didn't understand what was going on in that conversation.

    Is your wife looking for another guy (is she the one with the kid she's talking about)? She wants you to meet these people? What don't you like about them?

    To answer your question... you can't reveal that you have info like this without being willing to ruin your relationship, so Hulk smash if you are ready to walk away, otherwise, sit back and collect more data.

    I feel more bad for people who find stuff while snooping :hs:

    Fucking OT moral police. You know what's less moral than snooping on your SO? LYING to your SO.

    Guy: "Ya so I keylogged my wife and she's fucking 5 black guys"

    OT Moral police:
    "YOU STUPID ASSHOLE! WHAT KIND OF ASSHOLE SPIES ON HIS WIFE*????"

    Guy: "Um, is that even the issue here? I now have empirical proof that she's cheating on me."

    OT Moral Police: "WHATEVER YOU SNOOPING ASSHOLE!"

    :ugh2:











    *most likely said by people who are hiding things from their SO. guilt overcompensation and transference.
     
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  22. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    I would cheat on my husband too is he were a dick who thought my only place was in the kitchen, got pissed if I had to go to the bathroom before sex, made excuses that "we have no time for foreplay EVER" and thus only "sticks it in," and texted me from the other side of the house all the time to fuck.
     
  23. Deborah

    Deborah Seeing is believing, but I don't want to know.

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    :bowrofl: :bowrofl: I was actually thinking the same thing, altho I don't think she is actually cheating now. It's possible that she is contemplating leaving him.
     
  24. Falconer

    Falconer OT Supporter

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    Is that what the TS does? I don't recognize his name.

    This is another reason to live together before you get married.
     
  25. Falconer

    Falconer OT Supporter

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    I still don't understand the chat convo. Is his wife telling her friend to keep an eye out for new guys for her?
     

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