SRS What to do about ex girlfriend?

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  1. p00tan6

    p00tan6 New Member

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    To make it short, my ex girlfriend of 4 years broke up with me about a month ago and now calls me and tells me she misses me. The breakup was my fault. Ever since she left I have taken offtopic's advice just to leave her alone and move on. I think she wants me back but she's just to afraid/embarrassed to say so. She currently has a boyfriend she can't seem to picture herself with in the future and tells me all this crap about how she can still see herself with me and doesnt have strong feelings for her current boyfriend. I think she was just rebounding.

    We had a long conversation last night and at the beginning it seemed like she was asking for me back, but towards the end she's like " dont think that i still want to be with you" blah blah blah Is this girl playing mind games?

    Should i continue to ignore her? Should i take her back considering she is stringing her other boyfriend along eventhough she doesnt have strong feelings for him? I've been depressed/sad ever since she left, but am scared her indecisivness is going to hurt me again. Is there anyway i can approach her about this or is it best just to continue moving on?
     
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    She calls you and tells you she misses you, but is still seeing this other guy.
    Well, if you need to be told flat out, just ask her.

    Either she wants you or she doesn't.

    Given her verbal games, it seems clear that she doesn't particularly want you.
    She may not want this new guy, but that doesn't mean she wants you either.

    She calls you up because you're safe, you're comfortable, and you'll listen to her whine on the phone for a couple of hours.

    If she really wants you, she'll let you know.

    So far, all I see is that she's continued to use you. Don't mistake simple contact for love and attachment.

    Should you keep chasing after her? Well that depends on how much self-respect you have.

    PS. If you're going to do it, do it right. Don't just ignore or disappear. Tell her you would like to see her, but it's going to be you or him. If she can't make that choice tell her that unfortunately, you are moving on with your life and good bye and good luck. Be firm. Be a man.

    Make it clear to her WHY you are doing this. You deserve better treatment and will not be used.
    Make that clear to yourself, too. Right?
     
  3. I agree with that too. I think you should put your foot down and tell her right what you are thinking and ask she do the same to you. I wouldn't take any less than the truth and being used is totally out of the question and somthing you should avoid.
     
  4. p00tan6

    p00tan6 New Member

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    Daymn thats some good advice! I never thought of it that way. I shouldnt let her string me along either. I feel if i talk to her and be her friend she'll think of me as a saftey net she can fall back on. So I think i'll let her know up front its either me or him.
     
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    Good advice :eek3:
     

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