Does anyone know someone like this? My gf (now ex gf) is an extreme introvert, not just to the level of social shyness but to the point where she will choose to shut people out of her life who love and care about her. Over the course of the 5+ years we dated I saw her shut everyone out of her life, from close girlfriends, to her parents, and eventually me. I think this is a problem becuae throughout the course of her relationships with people, routine disputes upset her, and her reaction isnt to tell the person that they have offended her or try to discuss the problem, but to shut them out of her life altogether. Not usually a problem with someone who is an acquaintance, but I think that something is wrong when you are trying to terminate your relationship with people who genuinely love and care about you. Throughout the course of our relationship, she routinley has shut me out and tried to terminate our relationship and friendship for various reasons, but always suddenly, leaving me to wonder WTF and spend months repairing the friendship. She doesnt have any close friends (other than me). She has also tried to shut her parents out, and even spent an extea 2 years away in college because and did not want to move home after graduation. She basically considered them excommunicated but tolerable, because they paid her tuition and some bills. I had a recent talk with her dad, whom I know pretty well, and he mentioned that she never discussed any of her problems with him. I told him that she was the same way with me. In the past few months she has turned to the church (Christian), was "saved" and it seems like she has placed religion in the place of her relationships with people. I am not sure why she felt the need to be "saved" in the first place, but I suspect it may have been a sort of emotional loneliness caused by her shutting out her friends and family, and a need to somehow legitimize the bad feelings she feeels inside afterwards. The latest thing (and the reason that we broke up) is that she has come to believe that people who dont share her faith are basically heathens and should be excommunicated, regardless of the fact that they love and care about her no matter what her religious beliefs are. I dont know if this makes sense, but I can tell that when she shuts people out it makes her feel hurt and miserable, but now its as if she is using religion to justify why it is right to shut people out and to legitimize the hurt she feels afterwards as a sort of necessary or sacred suffering. It basically lets her avoid confronting the problem that she shouldnt shut loved ones out to begin with. I basically hinted at this, that god shouldnt replace her relatioinship with loved ones, but that there should be a balance, and it turned into "You dont believe in my god/you dont take precedence over god/god says I shouldnt even be with you/you are a heathen who has cost me blessings/even though I know you love me I never want to speak to you again" She honestly seems to believe that no one loves or cares about her, when in fact people do but she cant see it because she is shutting them out. And the religion is just another factor, making it impossible to question what she is doing without offending her and leading her to the problematic behavior. Wondering if anyone has had experience dealing with a person like this and what can be done if anything. Honestly I love this girl and am willing to give it a try, but only because her family seems to understand and because we all will be patient because we lover her and want to see her happy.