what the hell is the matter with me?

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  1. dontfearthegovt

    dontfearthegovt New Member

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    this is incredibly embarassing but i need to know whats up.

    for the last 4-5 days i havent been able to get erect. its been preventing me from having sex with my girlfriend whos visiting me right now (we only see eachother on weekends) usually we have very good, long lasting sex but this weekend i dont know whats up. its not her, i cant even get myself hard thinking about things or looking at porn. this is bothering me incredibly and its making me feel really uncomfortable/depressed/self conscious

    background info on my lifestyle: im 19, healthy, work out 2-3 times a week (weightlifting and cardio exercise), heavy smoker (marijuana, cigarrets) and drinker.

    what could this problem stem from? being depressed? what other factors lead to this kind of bullshit. i need some help fast because i dont wanna go through a weekend without having sex. i also dont want her to feel like she is unnattractive.
    please help.
     
  2. chlywly

    chlywly Active Member

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    I think this could easily stem from heavy smoking and drinking... Marijuana kills your libido, it's not good for your hormone balance if you smoke heavily, alcohol also has adverse effects on erections........

    Cut out the heavy smoking and drinking.. You may need to go to a doctor..
    Most importantly, relax; let her know what is happening and that you are very frustrated and unsure of what's happening, she will be there to support you..... You don't need to feel pressured to perform; that's likely making it worse...

    RELAAAAAAAAAAX, quit the smoking/drinking.... Have a nice romantic time together and take it easy
     
  3. dontfearthegovt

    dontfearthegovt New Member

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    but ive been drinkin and smoking for so long and only just recently has this happened. im so fucking frustrated i didnt sleep at all last night
    i feel like shit
     
  4. squid

    squid braap

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    um, alcohol and mj both decrease testosterone and increase estrogen production. the working out would help counterbalance that but it's definitely not helping.

    but it's probably mental. for that you need to look inwards.
     
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    yankeeschick14 New Member

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    Sometimes things can affect you in different ways, in this case it does sound like some of your lifestyle choices could be playing roles in your problem. Why not just cut them out for a few days and see what happens? That is, if you decide having sex with your gf more important than doing that.

    Secondly, you need to relax. I understand this is difficult because youre very upset and stressed out about what's going on, but the more pressure you put on yourself the worse its going to be. Odds are your gf will understand. Perhaps ask her if she can give you a massage and see where things lead, sometimes thats enough to do the trick.

    Do you have other stressors going on in your life right now? Like work or school? Stress, drugs, and alcohol are some of the biggest inhibitors for you libido. Also, have you been taking any medications?

    If it continues to be a problem, I would consult with a professional for more advice. Good luck!
     
  6. dontfearthegovt

    dontfearthegovt New Member

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    Yeah i decided im not gonna smoke anymore cigarrets for a while (i ran out last night so i wont be tempted) and i am going to try not to drink at all tonight either.

    school is definately stressful and i have been using other drugs here and there which would possibly contribute. im gonna try and flush my system i just went for a run
     
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    chlywly Active Member

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    Exactly, it's finally caught up to you; what do you expect, things don't happen over night.... Good job :ugh2:
     
  8. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    Way to ruin all that hard work with smoking and drinking.
     
  9. antihero

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    it happened once, thats a fluke. But that got into your head. now you are stressing out over it. now you are losing sleep. you know if you pull an all nighter you are not going to have the energy for it the next day either.


    get some sleep. relax.
     
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    motherf*cking :werd: . Why even lift if you just wanna put shit in yourself?
     
  11. dontfearthegovt

    dontfearthegovt New Member

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    Good news. I just had successful sex. I think choosing to stay completely sober today helped a lot
     
  12. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    *shock*


    Who would ever think heavy pot smoking + alcohol drinking would affect your libido :eek3:



    :rofl:
     
  13. nezfotnemom

    nezfotnemom OT Supporter

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    Sometimes I wish I had your situation [not always obviously].. I almost am tired of getting ramboners constantly :mamoru:
     
  14. HuskiRuski

    HuskiRuski Cardinal Fan

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    wow you're retarded.
    you've actually been having trouble staying sober for a whole day?
     
  15. Smokey McPot

    Smokey McPot

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    It's the bud man i hate to say it but its happened to me before.
     
  16. Redneck Shinobi

    Redneck Shinobi Well Jules, the funny thing about my back is that

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    My gf loves sex stoned, doesn't work so well for me lol.
     

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