SRS What should my brother do? His girl friend is anorexic

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  1. MudRacer4x4

    MudRacer4x4 New Member

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    Hes in high school and his girlfriend who hes known for a long time is anorexic

    She is skinny and does not eat anything. She complains about stomach pain and my brother tells her she should eat more and she just says "I eat enough" and then he tells her to see a doctor and she says "i'm scared of doctors" She complains about this often. What can my brother say to encourage her to eat more or see a doctor? Thanks
     
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    jesus. are her parents oblivious to this?! she needs rehab or something equivalent.
     
  3. strykers

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    does she ever complain about her weight to him?
     
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    He definitely needs to get a professional involved.
     
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    He should talk to her parents. Maybe they are not aware of her habits, and they can take her to a doctor/therapist. I dunno, but it's always been my experience that eating disorders are much like drug addictions in that you really cannot help the person unless they truly want help. Sure you can commit them to a hospital/psych ward, and they'll comply with eating and gaining weight, and "pretend" to be back to normal. The minute they're out they'll probably revert to old habits.
     
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    MudRacer4x4 New Member

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    hes only met the parents a few times, thats the problem.
     
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    first, make certain she really does have an issue.... read up on it, dont jump to conclusions.

    shes under 17? tell the parents. shes still (hopefully) on their med insurance, and that alone will make treatment a much more viable option.

    not to mention living at home. once she moves out, it just gets harder to stop. might want to see if shes getting negitive support (online, friends, etc), and find out a little about her triggers.

    might be helpful info:
    http://www.something-fishy.org/helping/yourapproach.php
    http://www.anred.com/toc.html
     
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    Still in HS? I'll be the asshole and say this is what he should do, in this order:

    #1. drive to her house and tell her parents "I think she has an eating disorder."

    #2. tell her "after you get some help then we can be together but until then we need to break up."

    #3. break up with her.
     
  9. Jimeigh

    Jimeigh Every rook and jay in the corvidae have been raven

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    this is correct

    but maybe word it, "but until then i cant watch you do this to yourself."
     
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    "you should eat more"
    "i eat enough"
    "no you don't eat this"
     
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    if she really has an eating disorder that won't do anything.
     
  12. erynne936

    erynne936 my av is a car, but i'm a girl. stop calling me b OT Supporter

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    he can try seeing if she will get help and/or telling the parents but it really is up to her. if she isn't ready to recover than nothing will really help :hs:
     
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    :werd: My sister has been working to get over her eating disorder for quite some time now. It is not a process you want to get involved with in a high school relationship...

    It doesn't just go away, even after things have appeared to improve. Every step forward is accompanied by half a step back. Basically, you're looking at at least a year before you even want to talk to her... otherwise, you'll be trying to shoulder a burden you cannot understand and cannot help carry.

    Of course, you'd say it much nicer than in the above conversation.
     

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