What not to do to go into the Friendzone?

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  1. forgotmyname

    forgotmyname Active Member

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    Somebody just made a thread about this on the main forum but I doubt I'll get a honest answer there. So tell me, what do you do to avoid going into the friendzone lane when going out a with girl, or approaching one?
     
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  2. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    Appear interesting. Appear to have charisma/friends/a life in general. Also, having a certain level of attraction is obviously a reason, but most guys get themselves into the friendzone by acting like a friend.

    Instead of getting the girls number, holding off a few days and then calling her eventually and confidently saying "we're going on a date _____" he usually calls constantly to chat for an hour about nothing. He might think this is nice and he's learning so much about the girl, but really he's just coming off as a penis-less male she can talk to. She almost always wants an interesting guy who keeps her on her toes and doesn't pay her that much attention (therefore seems to be mysterious).
     
  3. idesofmarch

    idesofmarch New Member

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    Most important line right there. Do not say "let's hang out". Friend's hang out, and it show's you're not confident enough to ask her on a real date.
     
  4. Viper

    Viper OT Supporter

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    This one is really simple:

    KNOW WHAT YOU WANT

    STATE WHAT YOU WANT

    IF SHE DOESN'T WANT WHAT YOU WANT, MOVE ON.
     
  5. AlextheDroog

    AlextheDroog Come and get one in the yarbles, if ya have any ya

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    be friendly but don't be her friend...

    women DO NOT reward sensitivity and loyalty with sex....
     
  6. Yuppy

    Yuppy Have a seat right there....

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    kiss her
     
  7. forgotmyname

    forgotmyname Active Member

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    I've done that and it didn't work out well. :hsugh:
     
  8. MattThom01

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    agree 100%

    It saves you time in the long run too.
     
  9. antihero

    antihero OT Supporter

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    did you end up in the "friendzone"? probably not.

    better to just go for the kiss, get shot down and move on then waste time and energy when its not going to work out any better after you are her emotional tampon for a while.
     
  10. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    If this is about the girl who has kissed you even though she's in an LDR I think the best advice to really give you is to move on and ignore her.
     
  11. Jay487

    Jay487 What's Life If You Ain't Enjoyin' It?

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    As true as this is, it doesnt make sense to me. Why do girls want someone who doesnt pay attention to them or treats them like crap? (i've seen this more times than not)
     
  12. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    Think about it....do you like clingy girls? I doubt it, most people don't. So the same thing goes for girls. They usually want a guy who seems to have better things to do. More times than not that guy is the guy who doesn't treat them like a princess and pretty much ignores them. When a girl doesn't constantly know what a guy is doing they appear to be interesting, and they want to be special to them.
     
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    Torch Platinum Plus Member

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    Why can't you be friends with a girl/woman and then move into a relationship if you like her that way? I thought that was common.
     
  14. the ground folds

    the ground folds rest your trigger on my finger

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    women dont progress the same way through friendships that men do. Men usually have friends that they know they would sleep with or be with given the chance and the other friends that are just friends. When you try being friends with a woman they see it as that and don't look at it like they would sleep with you given the chance and so on. They start to see you as one of the ladies. In short, they aren't attracted to friends the same way men can be.
     
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    I have always avoided the dreaded friend zone by having drunken anal sex with the girl in question. and, to clarify for those trolls out there, I stuck it in her asshole, she didnt stick anything in mine. Ok. I lied. maybe she did stick a finger in my butt once or twice. wow. thats not gay right? please tell me thats not gay


    oh god.


    :o
     
  16. ForgottenSpiral

    ForgottenSpiral Hope and Irony OT Supporter

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    This sums it up nicely.
     
  17. forgotmyname

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    From experience I can say that don't if you like somebody, do not take her to the movies. Also stating what you want with her helps a lot.
     
  18. forgotmyname

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    Btw, the one I kissed and the one that is in a LDR are not the same girl. Those are two of them, which didn't work. :hsugh:
     
  19. Jay487

    Jay487 What's Life If You Ain't Enjoyin' It?

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    Good advice. Although I think the whole reverse psychology thing is kinda :ugh: , you're right.
     
  20. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    Your thinking is all wrong. You are now associating kissing on the first date and/or a movie as a date as a bad thing-just because two girls burned you for those choices...which is stupid. It all has to do with these girls, what they are going through, how your connection was, and overall how you handled yourself on and after these dates that is fucking your chances.
     
  21. f00l

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    flirt, flirt and flirt some more
     

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