SRS What makes a women 'react' more?

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  1. verbal

    verbal Active Member

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    With a guy being distant or a guy being open/honest?
     
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    'react' positively or negatively?
     
  3. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    Depends solely on the woman. Silence and distance would drive me nuts. I want my man to be open and honest.
     
  4. MattThom01

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    not to mention level of interest/closeness.

    If she has no interest in spending time with you, she's not gonna give a crap what you do.
     
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    yeah I agree. Open and honest is your safest bet.
     
  6. verbal

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    I guess I should've worded it differently and given more details. Made this thread buzzed last night. :hsugh:

    You know how sometimes when someone goes distant, it makes the other person try more? I guess that's what I'm getting at....

    In the new relationship sense, would being persistent work better-- as in trying to progress the relationship, but sometimes that makes the other person get more distant.

    Or being distant-- backing off and see if it makes the other person put more effort.

    I know it's a messed up question. I'm trying to ask it without giving a lot of details because I know I'll just get hated on. No, this has nothing to do with my ex. We're completely done.
     
  7. EvilGT

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    Im kind of in the same situation myself. If it feels natural and you both feel like your not forcing things then do what feels right. But I can understand you want to gauge her interest and I think time apart every once in a while is healthy for a relationship.
     
  8. eXyle

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    try not think about it so much, stay out of her head, do what you want, and go with the flow.


    if you want to strategize your moves, i would say the 2steps forward, 1step back approach would work out well.
     
  9. Falconer

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    Which is why being distant will often get more reaction/attraction from a woman, because she's going nuts not getting what she wants.

    Not saying it applies to you cuz you're so above PUA games :)mamoru:), but in general. It's human nature...

    ...for a while, until you get sick of it and leave the person.
     
  10. DiggityDogg

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    What kind of reaction are you talking about? Positive or Negative?

    Open and honest has always worked better in my life... but I be open and honest with my actions. IE, if I like a girl I don't go to her and say, "I like you sooooo much." Instead I ask her out on a date and go have fun. At the end of the night I move in for a kiss. I think she knows pretty well that I like her at that point without having to say so.
     
  11. METALLlC BLUE

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    Being "normal" works. Not too distant, not too close exceedingly open and honest. Do either to an extreme and you're shit out of luck.

    Moderation my son, moderation.
     
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    neither. They react more to a guy being confident and self-assured
     
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