Discussion in 'On Topic' started by verbal, Dec 14, 2008.
With a guy being distant or a guy being open/honest?
'react' positively or negatively?
Depends solely on the woman. Silence and distance would drive me nuts. I want my man to be open and honest.
not to mention level of interest/closeness.
If she has no interest in spending time with you, she's not gonna give a crap what you do.
yeah I agree. Open and honest is your safest bet.
I guess I should've worded it differently and given more details. Made this thread buzzed last night.
You know how sometimes when someone goes distant, it makes the other person try more? I guess that's what I'm getting at....
In the new relationship sense, would being persistent work better-- as in trying to progress the relationship, but sometimes that makes the other person get more distant.
Or being distant-- backing off and see if it makes the other person put more effort.
I know it's a messed up question. I'm trying to ask it without giving a lot of details because I know I'll just get hated on. No, this has nothing to do with my ex. We're completely done.
Im kind of in the same situation myself. If it feels natural and you both feel like your not forcing things then do what feels right. But I can understand you want to gauge her interest and I think time apart every once in a while is healthy for a relationship.
try not think about it so much, stay out of her head, do what you want, and go with the flow.
if you want to strategize your moves, i would say the 2steps forward, 1step back approach would work out well.
Which is why being distant will often get more reaction/attraction from a woman, because she's going nuts not getting what she wants.
Not saying it applies to you cuz you're so above PUA games mamoru, but in general. It's human nature...
...for a while, until you get sick of it and leave the person.
What kind of reaction are you talking about? Positive or Negative?
Open and honest has always worked better in my life... but I be open and honest with my actions. IE, if I like a girl I don't go to her and say, "I like you sooooo much." Instead I ask her out on a date and go have fun. At the end of the night I move in for a kiss. I think she knows pretty well that I like her at that point without having to say so.
Being "normal" works. Not too distant, not too close exceedingly open and honest. Do either to an extreme and you're shit out of luck.
Moderation my son, moderation.
neither. They react more to a guy being confident and self-assured