what is your opinion on ending a relationship over the phone?

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  1. operationrob

    operationrob OT Supporter

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    i am kinda torn about what to do. i have been with a girl for about 5-6 months and it's time for it to end. i would rather do it in person than over the phone, but i don't think it's a good idea to be like "hey lets hang out so i can break up with you." not to mention the awkward car ride bringing her home, which is why i am considering just doing it over the phone. any opinions or suggestions? i would have her meet me somewhere but she doesnt have a car so that's out. atleast over the phone is better than a text message break up, right? :mamoru:
     
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    hellyea2650 New Member

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    i once got dumped in a text message...sure go for it
     
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    "hey i gotta talk to you"
    "i don't think this is gonna work out, and i don't think it would be fair for either of us to continue"

    BREAK UP IN PERSON, be a man about it and let the person know. I have never broken up with someone over the phone or txt msg, or e-mail, etc... In Person is the way.
     
  4. Frank White

    Frank White Through thick and thin... OT Supporter

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    umm how bout 'i need to talk to you, wanna meet somewhere'?
     
  5. Frank White

    Frank White Through thick and thin... OT Supporter

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    only scumbags break up over the phone...especially 6mth
     
  6. Do whatever the hell you want, it's your life, you're not going to take any advice anyways. Dump her how you feel she deserves to be dumped.
     
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  8. lauren

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    doesn't matter how you do it so long as you are honest, to the point and consistent. i dont get the big deal about doing it in person.
     
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    Coottie BOOMER......SOONER OT Supporter

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    lol last time I did the....I need to talk to you, let's meet somewhere bit...I was instantly busted by....you wanna break up don't you?

    Do what you need to do in order to be ok with the ending. Everyone's different and has different ideas about how to do this....just be true to yourself.
     
  10. jackjohnson

    jackjohnson simple as something nobody knows OT Supporter

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    Breaking up over the phone is pussy shit. But if you don't want to look like a jackass and still break up with her over the phone then do this:

    call her up when you guys are far away, unable to meet
    tell her you need to talk to her in person about something important
    the key is that you can't meet for say 5-6 hours
    it'll drive her nuts until she calls repeatedly calls you you and demands the talk
    break up with her over the phone
     
  11. crunchy_black

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    If you break up with a girl in person.. She starts crying and shit. Then you have to go to the toilet and climb out the window to escape :p
     
  12. Yail Bloor

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    you could break up with her "female-style"

    quit calling her, don't return her calls, etc.

    i'd do it face-to-face in person, but that's just me
     
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    u cant break up over the phone.. thats pussy shit.. be a man and do it in person.. have some respect
     
  14. Drifter87

    Drifter87 Yippi-kay-ay, Motherfucker

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    Breaking Up on the phone is acceptable. I don't see why you people think it is not. You are still talking to the person and you can still get a good sense of their emotions. Also What if it is a Long Distance relationship? He is not going to drive 4-6hrs just to say to its over. Ending something by Texting, Instant Message, or Email is a pussy way of doing it.

    I look at it as...

    Face to Face > Phone > * > Text/Email/IM

    Sadly no one has ever dumped me to my face, its always been Phone or IM. When I dump people its Face to Face or Phone.
     
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    be a man about it and do it face-to-face.
     
  16. operationrob

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    i think it'll be over the phone. blah blah blah pussy shit do it in person, i dont think the phone is that big of a deal. like crunchy_black said, she starts crying and shit and you have to climb out the window.
     
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    busydoingnothing A broken man too tough to cry

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    i did it over the phone. oh well. and link to essay? edit: now i see.
     
  19. Jackie Treehorn

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    yeah just try and meet her somewhere casual and public! Then you can drop the axe and be on your way. Best way to do it in my opinion
     
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    i've done it once... and i don't see why there is so much hate for doing it. i didn't do it to pussy out... but what was i supposed to say. "hey, can we meet up? we need to talk"

    great, so i'd give her a fucking anxiety attack while she came on her way to meet me because that line is an obvious signal of bad things to come. oh, and ive also wasted both our times to meet up, just to break up and leave. great, now i feel like a real man!

    i prefer to do it in person but i have no problem doing it over the phone if necessary :dunno:
     
  21. operationrob

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    the conversation was short, and to the point. asked her what was up, how her day was, then pulled out the "we need to talk." she was like ohhhh boy. i spilled the beans, said i was sorry and then said bye. i dont think she really wanted to talk to me after that....
     
  22. MattThom01

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    Here's the way I see it: If you invest enough respect and time in a person to build a relationship with them, then you should at least show them enough respect to break up with them in person.

    Doing it over the phone basically shows: you don't value them enough to show them a basic courtesy. It also shows that you are unwilling to face up to end something you started.


    Look at it another way...would you call your boss and quit a serious job over the phone?

    Also, those who think it is fine...what's the big deal? What is it that you can't deal with in person? It's the whole thing of "if you have something to say, say it to my face". Be a mature adult, confront others about problems/issues in person.
     

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