what is with my sex drive?

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  1. blink me

    blink me New Member

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    I'm 22, just started dating a very attractive girl, I can get a hard on like nothing, we have foreplay that is very [​IMG] but once I go to have intercourse I get semi hard and sorta loose my erection.

    I am healthy, in decent shape, and attracted to this girl A LOT. I got pretty embarrassed when this happened as previous girls I can fuck like I'm in a porno. And it's not like I am nervous, but this is kinda getting me a bit depressed.


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  2. Thelonius

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    Performance anxiety, it's pretty common...you want to knock it out because you're making your first impressions on the person so there's some pressure..even if you're not fully conscious of it, it's somewhere in the back of your mind.

    It happens to me sometimes with a new girl, usually I'll go down on her which kinda takes you off the spot. I've always managed to recover this way, do that or find something else to relieve the pressure. The worst thing to do is stop, talk about it, and then both of you stare at it waiting for it to get hard.
     
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    http://forums.offtopic.com/showthread.php?t=3431817&highlight=couldn't+cum

    Here's a similar thread that may help you.


    Ok I'll start off by saying that it is definitely a psychological issue, not physical. If you can get hard and maintain an erection during foreplay or while watching porn, you have nothing physically wrong with you.

    As Lonius just mentioned, performance anxiety is usually the main culprit. The problem is that you are not truly immersed once intercourse begins. Your mind is most likely cluttered with random thoughts that interfere with your performance.

    During foreplay you have no problems because you just go at it, you let your animal instincts guide you and nothing else is on your mind to interfere. Once it comes time for sex, your mind goes into overdrive worrying about common things such as penis size, performance or wondering "if you'll be able to get it up this time" or whatever.

    So how do you get over it? The key is to immerse yourself during intercourse, just as you do during foreplay. Remove any thoughts out of your head that aren't sex related. You may not be able to fully clear your mind the first time but it'll get better each time you try. If something goes wrong, make a joke about it rather than stress out over it.

    You've never had this issue before and you already know what you're capable of :naughty:, this girl is no different from the rest.
     

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