What is there to be said about a girl you always have to initiate contact with...

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  1. M.A. Malone Esq.

    M.A. Malone Esq. OT Supporter

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    but she has a good time when you're together?

    The only time she initiated contact is when we first went out and she texted me after she got home telling me how much fun she had, yada yada yada. We've only been talking for a couple weeks, so this is just me being an over thinker, but just humor me.

    go. :run:
     
  2. Viper

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    I don't think it matters so much who contacts who.

    What does matter is whether you see any progress being made in the relationship.

    Has there been any indication that this is a "sexual" relationship (as opposed to platonic)? (by indication I mean kiss, touching, etc.)
     
  3. M.A. Malone Esq.

    M.A. Malone Esq. OT Supporter

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    Yes.
     
  4. Viper

    Viper OT Supporter

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    Well, then, you're good. At least for a while anyway. (I'm assuming your yes means that you've kissed)

    If she never initiates contact with you, I'd take that to mean she doesn't want anything serious with you.
     
  5. M.A. Malone Esq.

    M.A. Malone Esq. OT Supporter

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    I suppose I'm most concerned about this question because I don't want to be THAT guy that is constantly pestering a chick who is not interested (but I'm about 70% sure she is and I'm 90% sure that she knows my intentions). Granted though, she is in a very unusual situation that justifiably allows her to turn me down for a date at any given time.

    Now, I don't think I'm pestering her yet, but I can see it going down that road very quickly. I kind of want to back off for a bit, but that will probably work against me as well.
     
  6. Viper

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    Meh, if you back off and she doesn't come to you, then I think you have your answer as to whether there is anything between you. :dunno:

    I think it would greatly benefit people if they stopped worrying so much about how to make a relationship work and focused more on letting things play out more naturally.

    If your goal is to go into every date looking for a specific outcome, I think you're going to become frustrated at least half the time. However, if you let things happen more naturally, you can save yourself a lot of time and headache.
     
  7. M.A. Malone Esq.

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    We have not kissed, but some touching involved. We went out only twice though, so not much of a chance for a kiss yet.
     
  8. M.A. Malone Esq.

    M.A. Malone Esq. OT Supporter

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    I agree, but getting her to come out is a challenge enough (as with all girls), plus her unusual situation doesn't make things as obvious as I would like it to be (duh!)....
     
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    I think most girls expect to be kissed within the first two dates, dude. :dunno:

    And, honestly, you have to create the chance. It won't just "happen." You gotta lead it towards that.
     
  10. M.A. Malone Esq.

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    I'm really not worried about the kissing, the opportunity just hasn't arised.
     
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    MarshyTheKid New Member

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    What were the dates? Did you never say goodbye to her? I bet the opportunity has arisen, you just didn't take it.
     
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    Bob Brown bewshit, bewshit, bewshit

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    what kind of touching have you two done? heavy petting? or just holding hands, hips?
     
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    So how often is it that you contact her?
     
  14. M.A. Malone Esq.

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    The thing is I work with her (don't say it), so I see her all the time. The first time we went out for a game at a bar where she joined me and my friend. Then I went out with drinks with her for a few hours the following week, it went really well, and some light flirting. The opportunity for a kiss did not arise, trust me.

    It's really in the beginning stages and I'm make alot of very little, just wanted to see what the opinions were on the question at hand.
     
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    I honestly think you just need to make a move and see where you stand.
     
  16. M.A. Malone Esq.

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    Working on it.
     
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    MarshyTheKid New Member

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    First one is not a date, IMO. Drinks may or not be considered a drink, especially among coworkers.
     
  18. M.A. Malone Esq.

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    I know, there's a lot of gray area here.
     
  19. M.A. Malone Esq.

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    I WAS going to make our next "date" a lunch date, but since you guys are so adamant about me kissing her, I'll take her out at night.




















    ... and whip my cock out.
     
  20. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    You can kiss her in the daylight you know.
     
  21. MissKitty

    MissKitty If squats were easy they'd be called 'Your Mum' OT Supporter

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    I vote for not making mountains out of mole hills.

    Why put everything that happens under a microscope.

    Enjoy it, don't analyse it
     
  22. JohnJohnJohnson

    JohnJohnJohnson Effetely Sipping My Latte OT Supporter

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    This belief is what prevents boys from being men.

    I would go with the much classier wisdom, "Make the ho say no."

    The ho is saying, "Yes," right now, btw :bigthumb:

    I mean, assuming they have gotten physical already. Otherwise, :gtfo:
     
  23. M.A. Malone Esq.

    M.A. Malone Esq. OT Supporter

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    Yeah, but those are the daywalkers of the kisses. It's less likely to be had and done by guys way more advanced than I. :o
     
  24. Mugen92GS-R

    Mugen92GS-R New Member

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    Stop being a pussy and go after what you want. Date 3, if you don't kiss her, you fail. Stop "waiting" for the moment and CREATE one. She's probably waiting for you to do it anyways. Strap on some balls, dude :ugh:
     
  25. Mugen92GS-R

    Mugen92GS-R New Member

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    Oh, and high quality women won't fall for the whole "back off a little and spark some interest" thing (at least without having known the dude for a WHILE). Why? Because to THEM it makes you look flaky and unsure of what you want.
     

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